15 years of relationship,
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Please help me, I am in a very deppressing situation now, i'm in love with my employer and vice versa we live as a husband and wife for almost 6 years. When i was still new in islam he told me he has to marry me and it happened but it is only in quran which i until now i couldn't understand what is the meaning of it and what is my rights to him.All in his family knew about our relationship except his ex wife and his children. Now he cut our relationship witout telling me anything and i found it he's planning to get married to another woman. It is really hurting me i spent all my time for him, taking care of his mother and the children from his ex-wife. Please advice me what to do and tell me if i have the rights as a cuncobine wife? Thank you and may Allah blessed us.
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Answer:
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Sister we could not understand your question. You married this man after you reverted to Islam. You were accepted as his wife as you were looking after him and his parents and children from another woman. He is within his rights to keep 4 wives at one time, but he has to do justice with his time and money amongst all his wives. He cannot abandon you and stay with his new wife all the time. If he does that then he will be severely accountable in the just court of Allah swt., on the Day of Judgement. If you feel you are being side tracked and not given the honor and respect you deserve you are within your rights to initiate divorce proceedings and there will be no sin attached to you.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,
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