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 assalamualaikum, im in need of your help, im from chennai, doing 3rd year b.e(ice), i used to go to my college by college bus, there is a girl from other college younger than me who waits in the same place, when i see her i feel that she is made for me, i say so because i have never felt like this before, i used to simply smile at her, she too responds by smiling, i used to wait for her when she is late just to see her, this continued for months, once i made up my mind to speak to her, i went and spoke, i found out that she was a christian, i told about this to my brother, he said it is better to leave her, and i did,  i wantedly used to go late in order to avoid her, but i realised then that i was in serious love with her, i have not yet confessed openly about my love to her and i dont know whether she will accept me as her better half if i propose to her, but she knows that i love her through my gestures i know she is a kafir, but  what can i do, i dont know what to do, im completely disturbed by her, i used to seek gods help in duas,and by his grace i think i found this website, sir, please tell me what should i do, is there any way to marry her or is it not permissible in islam to marry her, im completely disturbed by her thoughts, i need someone's help. please help me, what should i do??

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In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Brother, if the woman id Christian then we Muslim men are allowed to marry them without any conditions. Having said that, your problems will not cease. Your parents might not approve and she might not be able to adjust in a Muslim environment. Her parents might refuse and that could be a major problem.

Marrying someone the family does not approve is not worth forgoing the relationships that you stand to lose. All the support, love and brotherhood just vanishes and you will find yourself very lonely. You have just seen the woman and think that she is right for you. You don't know her character, her family background, her likes and dislikes. She does not even know who you are and how you will treat her or look after her. Marriage is a sunnah, but obedience to your parents is fard al ayn. You will InshaAllah find a good Muslimah woman to marry who will love and cherish you and your family as they deserve and bring your children up in an emaan environment.
Brother, our humble advice is to let go of this fleeting mirage. As it is love will fly out of the window as soon as you start facing the realities of life. So fear Allah swt., have respect for your parents sacrifice and do the right thing. Of course you can ask your parents and if they agree then most of your problems could be solved.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

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