Leave parents for work.
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Dear Brother in Islam
Recently i was offered a very rewarding job near Holy Makkah. I was thrilled to hear that because i would be so close to Baytu-Allah, inaddition to this from the worldly perspective it was also very rewarding. Double to what i would earn in my present location. Importantly it was a Halal Source of Income.
My only problem is that although my parents are happy to see me grow in life and deen alhamdulilah. At the bottom of their heart they are all the time whispering that Please Dont Go. They dont want me to go there leaving them here. I have stayed with them all their life and now they feel really down to see that i will soon leave them for better career and more islamic country.
The good thing is that they are not verbally stopping me because every parent in this world wants good for their children. But deep in their heart i can sense an element of grief to see me go.
In such a situation, what is the best course of action from Islamic Point of view:
1. Should i take this new career which gives me an opportunity to move to a Islamic Country close to BaytuAllah. This will also allow me to earn and save more money which i can they use on them. And facilitate to settle some loans they took from closed ones
2. Continue to live with my parents and be content to what i am earning now. This will please my parents emotionally.
Please advice what is the course of action i should follow. Basically which of the actions will please Allah SWT more and ensure greater rewards for me in Akhirat.
Jazak Allah Khair for your time and response
Consfused Slave of Allah
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Leave parents for work
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Dear and beloved brother in Islam, one cannot over-emphasize the importance and significance of serving ones parents in Islam
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Bani Israel verses 23-24:
Your Lord has enjoined the following: You should not worship anyone but Him Alone! Treat your parents with great kindness; if either or both of them attain old age, do not even say uff to them; nor rebuke them; but speak to them kind words. Treat them with humility and tenderness and pray, O our Lord, be merciful to them, just as they brought me up with kindness and affection in my childhood.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 31 Surah Luqman verse 14:
14 And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command) "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 14 Surah Ibraheem verse 41:
41 "O our Lord! Cover (us) with Thy Forgiveness; me my parents and (all) Believers on the Day that the Reckoning will be established!"
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 46 Surah Ahqaaf verses 15-16:
15 We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents: in pain did his mother bear him and in pain did she give him birth. The carrying of the (child) to his weaning is (a period of) thirty months. At length when he reaches the age of full strength and attains forty years he says "O my Lord! grant me that I may be grateful for Thy favor which Thou hast bestowed upon me and upon both my parents and that I may work righteousness such as Thou mayest approve; and be gracious to me in my issue. Truly have I turned to Thee and truly do I bow (to Thee) in Islam."
16 Such are they from whom We shall accept the best of their deeds and pass by their ill deeds: (they shall be) among the Companions of the Garden: a promise of truth which was made to them (in this life).
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 151:
151 Say: "Come I will rehearse what Allah hath (really) prohibited you from": join not anything as equal with Him; be good to your parents: kill not your children on a plea of want; We provide sustenance for you and for them; come not nigh to shameful deeds whether open or secret; take not life which Allah hath made sacred except by way of justice and law: thus doth He command you that ye may learn wisdom.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 36:
36 Serve Allah and join not any partners with Him: and do good to parents kinsfolk orphans those in need neighbors who are near neighbors who are strangers the companion by your side the way-farer (ye meet) and what your right hands possess: for Allah loveth not the arrogant the vainglorious;
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 215:
215 They ask thee what they should spend (in charity). Say: Whatever ye spend that is good is for parents and kindred and orphans and those in want and for wayfarers. And whatever ye do that is good Allah knoweth it well.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941 Narrated by Abu Umamah
A man said, "O Messenger of Allah
(saws), what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or
your relation with them will determine) your
Sahih Muslim Hadith 6189 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said: Let him be
humbled into dust! Let him be humbled
into dust! It was said: O Allah's Messenger (saws), who is he? He (saws) said: He who sees either of
his parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does not enter
Your Question: Please advice what is the course of action i should follow. Basically which of the actions will please Allah SWT more and ensure greater rewards for me in Akhirat.
Respected brother in Islam, although both options available to you are permissible in Shariah, the one which would obviously be more Pleasing to Allah Subahnah and earn you unimaginable rewards in His Majestic Presence would be if you were to fulfill the desire of your parents by living with them and exerting yourself in their service.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.248 Narrated byAbdullah bin Amr
A man came to the Prophet (saws) asking his permission to take part in Jihad. The Prophet (saws) asked him, "Are your parents alive?" He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet (saws) said to him, "Then exert yourself in their service."
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Your brother and well wisher in Islam,