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Thanks for your great reply my hasbund allows to keep my relation ship with my parent but the isue i abaout out baby girl he for bide from taking her with me to my parants and say that if i do i will be disobeying him kindly revert cause i don't want to be disobidient

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Answer:

Husband stops meeting grandparents

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 13 Surah Ar-Raad verse 25:

As for those who break their covenant with Allah after confirming it, who cut asunder relationships which Allah has bidden to be joined, and spread chaos on the earth, their’s shall be the curse, and they shall have a wretched abode in the Hereafter.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Bakarah verse 27:

And He leads astray only those who disobey Allah, who break Allah’s covenant after ratifying it, who cut asunder relationships what Allah has ordered to be joined, and who produce chaos on the Earth. These are indeed the people who are the losers.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.17 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "The word 'Ar-Rahm (womb) derives its name from Ar-Rahman (i.e., one of the names of Allah) and Allah said: 'I will keep good relation with the one who will keep good relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin), and sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin).

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.15 Narrated by Anas bin Malik

Allah 's Messenger (saws) said, "Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be prolonged, then he should keep good relations with his kith and kin."

The husband in Islam has absolutely no right to stop or forbid his daughter from meeting or maintaining relations with her maternal grand-parents, absolutely regardless of whether her grand-parents happen to be believers or disbeleivers.

If the maternal grand-parents of the girl are disbelievers, and the father fears that the disbelief of the grand-parents might rub on his daughter, he may accompany her to meet her grand-parents, or not leave his daughter with them for an extended period of time…..but to absolutely forbid the meeting or maintaining relations of his daughter with her maternal grand-parents would be absolutely unlawful.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3696 Narrated by An-Nawwas ibn Sam'an

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the Creator."

Thus sister, even if your husband were to command or order you to make sure that your daughter does not meet, develop, or maintain a relationship with your parents (her maternal grand-parents), you are not liable to obey this unlawful command of your husband….for a creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the Creator!

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan