Married to revert issues.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
I am married for over 10yrs now. My wife is arevert. since marriage she has been working as a nurse. Efforts to have her learn deen have not been so successful. I have I put all I could to help.yet she religiously goes to work leaving infants in the hands of a house girl. I hoped that she would get interested to learn even how to read quran. She says she wont stop working. Iam frustrated as i feel she does not view akhera in the same light as I do. advice. we have 3 kids now. Though she , alhamdullillah puts hijab on well and prays five times aday.
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Married to revert issues
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Respected brother in Islam, the time to thoroughly investigate and verify the belief and the practice of religion of ones suitor in marriage is before one marries the person..not after ten years of marriage!
If, as you have related, your wife offers her obligatory prayers and fulfills the other obligatory tenets of the deen of Islam.it is only obvious that she believes and fears her Lord Creator and the Last Day. If in your opinion she does not view the aakhera or Hereafter in the same light as you or as it should be feared, you should continue your sincere efforts with patience and with wisdom in striving to bring her closer to fear her Lord and that Tumultuous Day of Judgment. Even if after your very best and sincere efforts, you find no change in her attitude towards the Hereafter, at least in the Court and Presence of your Lord on the Day of Judgment you would have deemed to fulfill your duty unto your wife.
If one truly seeks guidance in ones marriage, there is no better recipe for peace, harmony and tranquility in ones relationship with ones spouse in marriage than the guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws).
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rome verse 21:
21 And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 278 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Prophet (saws) said: The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behaviour; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3252 Narrated by Aisha ; Abdullah ibn Abbas
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family."
Sahih Muslim Hadith 3465 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As
Allah's Messenger (saws) said: The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman.
Sahih Muslim Hadith 3469 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said: a believing man should not hate a believing woman (his wife); if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3358 Narrated by AbuBakr as-Siddiq
The Prophet (saws) said, "One who treats
badly those under his authority will not enter
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
When Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) was asked which woman was best he replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 285 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Prophet (saws) said: Had it been permissible that a person may prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered that a wife should prostrate herself before her husband.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 284 Narrated by AbuAli Talq ibn Ali
The Prophet (saws) said: When a man sends for his wife for the satisfaction of his need, she should go to him even if she may be occupied in baking bread.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 286 Narrated by Umm Salamah
The Prophet (saws) said: If a woman dies
while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,