I was having a discussion with my fiancee about sex without marriage then she told me that she is not a virgin
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I belong to a religious family, Iam engaged with a girl who lives in the UAE.Some days ago I was having a discussion with my fiancee about sex without marriage then she told me that she is not a virgin,these words of her hurt me, made me very upset and crying while i love her alot and it has becum impossible to leave her but on the other hand Iam scared if she commits sex with anyone after our marriage.I want to ask you what should I do? Should I break the engagement? or anything else.Please guide me in this thing as Iam very tensed & please kindly do not show my name to anybody else.
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Marry one who did zina
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Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5:
5 .. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers, but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).
Allah Subhanah has Commanded and Guided the believers to marry only chaste women from amongst the believers, or from amongst the People of the Book.
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, if the sister you seek in marriage has committed zina in her past, and you are absolutely convinced that she has sought her taubah and repentance from her Lord.then there is absolutely no harm if a believer seeks to marry that woman, for the manifestation of sincere taubah wipes out every sin, including the abomination of zina.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
But if you fear that the woman who committed zina in her past is neither ashamed at her clear transgression of the Lords Boundaries, nor is she repentant at her sin, etc.; then it would obviously be best to seek another chaste and pious sister in marriage.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 3:
3 Let no man guilty of adultery or fornication marry any but a woman similarly guilty or an unbeliever; nor let any but such a man or an unbeliever marry such a woman: to the believers such a thing is forbidden.
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