Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

hi. my question is about duas. i like my cousin whom i want too get married too. my parents know about it and they are happy about this desicion. but i have a problem, my problem is that i do not know what that guy thinks of me. he oftens shows me intressed and never says what he feels. ii´m wondering if there is any dua for getting married too the person i like?

please answer too my question. thanx. 

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Answer:

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

If you so like your cousin that you wish to marry him and you have your parents consent, it would be best if your parents could approach your cousin or his parents or guardians and propose your hand in marriage to him; that would be absolutely the best and most righteous way in cementing your likeness for your cousin in the sacred bond of marriage.

Beloved Sister in Islam, although there is no specific dua narrated in the Sunnah, one may ask whatever good one’s heart desires from their Lord; it is expected that if what is asked is good for them, their Lord Most Gracious will surely fulfill their desire.

As powerful and important the medium of dua is, dua alone does not fulfill one’s wishes; one has to take some steps towards one’s goal if one wishes to bring one’s legal desires to fruitation. There is absolutely no harm or shame in a girls family initiating a marriage proposal in Islam; these are but self-invented and man-made cultural and social barriers which man has built for himself without any logic or reason!

It may be that your cousin too likes you and desires to marry you, but is afraid to approach your parents for your hand in marriage due to fear of rejection. If he is informed that you like him and wish to marry him and your parents too are happy with your choice, he would be encouraged to send his proposal to your parents and seek your hand in marriage. And if for any reason he does not have the same feelings for you, at the very least you would know his decision, and this chapter, instead of playing the dangerous guessing and waiting game, would come to a conclusion.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan