I m 25 yr old & working guy & by the grace of Almighty Allah I m enggaged with a nice & well cultured gal.
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Speaking before Marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Beloved brother, the rite of engagement has absolutely no legal basis in Islam, and the boy and girl would remain and be considered non-mehrams, and all the restrictions that apply to non-mehrams would be liable upon them until they have performed their nikaah.
There is absolutely no harm if one wishes to speak to ones fianc, provided she is accompanied by one of her male mehram relatives (father, uncle, brother, etc.); but to talk to the girl alone without the presence of her mehram relative would indeed be a transgression of the boundaries of Allah Subhanah and thus a sin.
It would be best to perform the nikaah with the girl one is engaged to as soon as possible, for then the relationship would be absolutely legal in the Sight of Islamic Law and of Allah Subhanah.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,