Medicine husband's responsibility
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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
i would like to know if taking medecine coz your chronic pain,and ur husband doesnt approve but i stiil buy them and dont tell him pls is it harram im so stress about this coz he found out and toll me is harram for not telling him.
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Ref : Duties of husband in Islam :
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34:
34 Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard (their chastity, their husband's honor, property, etc.)
The complete financial responsibility of the upkeep and maintenance of the house and the family is the responsibility and duty of the men in Islam. It is the responsibility and duty of the men in Islam to protect and maintain the women.
It is the responsibility of the men in Islam to make sure that food is provided to the womenfolk and family in their care, that clothing is provided for them, that a place is provided for them to reside in, complete medical and medicine is provide etc.
If the husband has given his wife permission that she may take his money anytime she likes, there is absolutely no harm in taking from his money without his knowledge. But if the wife takes the money without informing him or without his knowledge whatsoever, it would be akin to stealing in a way, and would also give rise to a lot of complications in the house.
The best and most righteous way is to inform him, and then take his money; or alternatively get a fixed weekly or monthly income from him to run the expenses of the household at your discretion. In our humble opinion, that would be the most righteous way.
Now to your specific Question ...
Sister what I understand of your situation , either your husband is negligence of providing you your basic necessities in life which include medicine, or he finds the medicine expensive, or may be the 'specific' medicine you are taking is not good for health and he wish you to use alternative.
In any case, he is duty bound to provide you medicine with best of his ability. And if he is showing negligence in this matter without any valid reason, you should politely remind him his responsibilities towards you.
If after all your efforts, he does not approve of your medicine, you are well within your rights to go and buy without informing him and there will be no sin attached on you.
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