Living together without Nikaah
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Dear Mr. Burhanbhai,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
Many many thanks your regular mails and herewith a question which I need more clarification.
You have recently answered this question extensively and I do understand the concept and the difference of Slavery practiced in the past and today. At one point you mention that in Islam, a Slave girl allotted to the person has the full right to have sexual relationship and stay like husband-wife provided men took full responsibility and care.
Tell me how does Islam justify the present times when a man lives with a girl friend together, could be both are Muslims or one of them a non-Muslim
or later converting into a muslim (but certainly NOT a mistress/prostitution/adultery) and share the same relationship as husband-wife and both take good care of each other fully responsible for everything including the bearness of children (but have not performed the Nikah). This is more like the slave girl issue and is this permissible, because the present State laws are so strict that it is better to live both partners as good friends than to marry and be called as husband-wife.
I very much agree with this practice and is logic according to what you have
told the history of Islam and this is the same way. Can you pls throw some light on this as many friends of mine are presently practicing this method and will definitely give them the answer to their query which I will appreciate if you post it to your readers on the forum.
May Allah guide us all to the Siraat al-Mustaqeem.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam.
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Living together without Nikaah
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The slave-girl issue is absolutely different from the issue of a woman and man living together without proper nikaah. The slave-girl was an undesirable and unavoidable issue from the effects of war and also, she is not given to the man out of his/her own choice, but rather the state allots this woman under the care of the person.
The nikaah is done with the choice and consent of both the parties and this contract is a list of rules, rights, responsibilities that both partners undertake towards each other. This nikaah contract is done in front of witnesses, so that none among the participants can deny the contract or abuse the rights of the other. The nikaah contract is to protect the rights of the husband as well as the wife.
Lets just take a step back and think in perspective. The one difference between marrying someone legally through nikaah and living with someone without nikaah, is this one seemingly simple verbal contract between the two parties. But the implications and results from each are extremely different. This concept of living together give rise to prostitution and promiscuity. Because one is not legally bound to the other, there is always the possibility of the abuse of rights and responsibilities of the other partner. This concept is a disease of the new, modern, un-Godly, atheist world. Just take a look at the societies where this concept is allowed, and you will realize the abuse and mess this has created; not only in the lives of the partners, but also in the lives of millions of children! People try several partners; there is widespread abuse in the rights of the partners; children are born out of wedlock and grow up with single parents if they are lucky; the core family is left baseless; and society as a whole starts to disintegrate.
Islam wants to create a society based on legality, rights, and harmony for all its participants. If today, a man and a woman choose to live together like a husband and wife, but without the nikaah contract; they will be committing the sin of zina (fornication) in Islamic Shariah. This sin is so grave in the sight of Allah, that Allah and His Messenger (saws) have decreed that the punishment for this sin is to stone the people committing this sin, to death in public!
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Your brother and well wisher in Islam,