IF A BOY FALLS IN LOVE WITH ONE GIRL AND SAYS TO HIS PARENTS THAT HE WANT TO MARRY THAT ONLY GIRL.
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ACTUALLY
I WANT TO ASK THAT IF A BOY FALLS IN LOVE WITH ONE GIRL AND SAYS TO HIS PARENTS
THAT HE WANT TO MARRY THAT ONLY GIRL AT ANY COST OTHERWISE HE WILL SUICIDE
ETC,,THEN WHT SHOULD PARENT MUST DO IN THIS CASE..?KINDLY GIVE A DETAILED
REPLY..MAY ALLAH GIVE U MORE KNOWLEDGE,AMEEN.
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Answer:
Parents refusal to
Marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verse 54:
54 It is He Who has created man from water: then has He
established relationships through blood and (through) marriage: for thy
Lord has Power (over all things).
Islam guides that a marriage is not merely a union of two
people who love each other, but rather a sacred union that unites two whole
families….thus if one is faced with a situation whereby their son is so in
‘love’ with an eligible girl (believer, chaste, etc.) and the parents of the
boy are satisfied with the character and the practice of religion of the
girl…..they should accede with the choice and request of their son.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated
by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is
married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and
her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a
loser."
Although the consent of the boy’s parents is not an
obligatory condition of a marriage in Islam, it would only be piety and
righteousness on the part of the son to make sure that he has the approval and
consent of his parents before he marries the girl. If for any reason one finds that their
parents are just not willing to consent to their choice, it would be better to
marry another girl whom the boy and the parents both approve of….
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941 Narrated byAbu Umamah
A man said, "O Messenger of Allah (saws)
what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or
your relation with them will determine) your
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.821 Narrated by Anas
The Prophet (saws) was asked about the ‘Grave
Sins’, and He (saws) replied, "They are:--
(1 ) To join others in worship with Allah,
(2) To be undutiful to one's parents,
(3) To kill a person (which Allah has
forbidden to kill)
(4) And to give a false witness."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated by Abud Darda
When a man came to him and said, "I have
a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he
had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the
gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister