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Assalam Alaikum…

A  MUSLIM LADY MARRIED A CHRISTIAN BOY SOME YEARS AGO AFTER SHE  CONVERTED TO CHRISTANITY. NOW THEY HAVE 2  DAUGHTERS.  RECENLTY THIS LADY STARTED REPENTING ON  HER ACT AND STRONGLY WANT TO RETUN TO ISLAM AND DIE AS  A MUSLIM. SHE IS NOT SURE THAT HER CHRSITIAN HUSBAND AND KIDS ARE  KEEN TO REVERT TO ISLAM. HENCE THIS LADY  WANTS TO KNOW

WHETHER  IT IS  POSSIBLE HER TO STAY WITH HER FAMILY WHILE SHE IS MUSLIM REST ALL NOT. SHE IS WORRIED  OF FATE OF HER YOUNG KIDS , ESPECIALLY THE GIRLS AND   SHE MAY NOT LEAD A LIFE WITHOUT THEM .

WHAT IS YOUR BEST SUGGESTION BASED ON  QURAN AND SUNNA TO HER IN THIS SCINARIO.

Jazakallah

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Answer:

Muslim girl marries Christian

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 221:

221 Do not marry ‘mushrik’ women until they believe; a slave woman who believes is better than an idolatrous woman, even though she allures you. Nor marry (your girls) to ‘mushrik’ (men) until they believe: a man slave who believes is better than a disbeliever even though he allures you. Disbelievers do (but) beckon you to the Fire. But Allah beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of Bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear to mankind: that they may celebrate His Praise.

The so-called ‘marriage’ between a believing woman and a pagan man is absolutely and categorically unlawful, null, void in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, in the sight of Shariah Law, and in the sight of the believers. Such an ‘union’ has absolutely no legal basis in Shariah; the children resulting from such a marriage will be considered born out of wedlock; and the woman would be considered to be living in a state of ‘zina’ as long she remains committed to that unlawful ‘union’ with her pagan ‘husband’!

Your Question: …..RECENLTY THIS LADY STARTED REPENTING ON  HER ACT AND STRONGLY WANT TO RETUN TO ISLAM AND DIE AS  A MUSLIM.

Absolutely regardless of whatever deeds one might have done in one’s past, if one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere ‘Taubah’ and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran that He will forgive all the sins of such a repentant believer, even if one has committed the gravest sin of all: ‘Shirk’! Not only that, our Lord is so Merciful and Generous, that He not only will forgive the sins of such sincerely repentant believers, but if they amend their conduct after their repentance, He will change their evil deeds done into good deeds!

The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:

·         One is aware that he has sinned, and feels sorry and ashamed at their sin.

·         Makes a solemn covenant and promise with Allah that one will not repeat the sin again.

·         Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before one has met with their appointment of death.

·         Is a believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:

(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.”

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:

Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:

The (true) servants of the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave insolently towards them, they say, “Peace to you”; (And those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, “O our Lord, save us from the torment of Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly, but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but Allah Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does this shall be punished for his sin, and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good deeds, and He is very Forgiving and Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:

When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah accepts a servant's repentance (taubah) till he gives up his spirit in death."

Your Question:……HENCE THIS LADY  WANTS TO KNOW WHETHER  IT IS  POSSIBLE HER TO STAY WITH HER FAMILY WHILE SHE IS MUSLIM REST ALL NOT. SHE IS WORRIED  OF FATE OF HER YOUNG KIDS , ESPECIALLY THE GIRLS AND   SHE MAY NOT LEAD A LIFE WITHOUT THEM . WHAT IS YOUR BEST SUGGESTION BASED ON  QURAN AND SUNNA TO HER IN THIS SCINARIO.

If the sister has realized the enormity of the transgression and sin she has committed in the Sight of her Lord by ‘marrying’ one to whom it is absolutely unlawful to marry, and wishes to live and die as a believer……she has a clear and manifest way out……ie. sincere repentance.

If the sister sincerely seeks repentance for her past transgressions before she meets with her appointment of death, and subsequently amends her conduct….it is expected that she will find her Lord Forgiving and Merciful.

• The first act of repentance would be to recognize the enormity of the crime she has committed; and she is sorry and ashamed at her manifest transgressions of the Laws of her Lord Creator.
• Secondly, she should turn in ‘taubah’ unto her Lord and seek forgiveness; and make a solemn covenant with Him that she will never ever indulge in the crime again.
• Thirdly, if she is indeed sincere in her repentance, and sincerely wishes to avert the Anger and the Wrath and the Punishments of the Lord Most Majestic on that Tumultuous Day of Judgment…..she would have to amend her conduct and immediately and permanently distance herself from her unlawful ‘husband’. If she is unwilling to do that, it is obvious that she is not sincere in seeking repentance for her abomination, nor does she sincerely fear Allah Subhanah and His Day of Accounting!

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan