Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Salaamu aleikum.

My brother in islam, i need what to do to earn ALLah"s sympathy over a shame that my fiance is about to throw on me. he said we would get married in either March or April....but he has refused to pick my calls neither is he calling back. in fact i have practically been  begging him to do this marriage,i have tolerated so much from him and his wife,we have been dating since oct 2004.........i will die of shame if he dumps me because i dont have anybody to marry me and am 32yrs old   PLEASE. there is no week i dont get insulted by the

wife. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Answer:

Marry lover

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Respected sister in Islam, for a marriage to take place and be lawful in Islam, it is absolutely obligatory that both parties, the bride and the groom, agree to be united in the sacred bond of matrimony. If for any reason whatsoever, one of the two parties chooses not to agree or give their precise consent to the marriage, there is absolutely nothing the rejected party can do to ‘force’ the other party into accepting their marriage proposal.

If the person you wish to marry has rejected your proposal, or does not respond to your proposal of marriage….it is obvious the person is not interested in marrying you……and sister, just as you would expect someone who proposed to you and you rejected their proposal to accept and honor your decision, it would only be piety and righteousness on your part that you accept his decision to reject your proposal, and you should seek to marry someone else who would honor you as his wife in the sacred bond of marriage.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan