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Assalamu Alaykum Brother,

It would be really helpful to know the sunnah way of Nikah.,..

So as in the appropriate place for the both candidates...

also the dress coding...simple ??

As there are alot weddings happening around us, which I know aren`t being dealt the islamic way...I would really like to put an effect personally..

Jazak Allah

Sister in Islam  

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Answer:

Sunnah way of performing nikkah

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In light of the teachings of the Quran and the Sunnah, the following acts are considered obligatory conditions of a marriage or ‘nikaah’ contract:

1. The proposal by the groom and the acceptance by the bride
2. The determination of the ‘mehr’ gift.
3. The presence of two witnesses to the ‘nikaah’ contract
4. The presence and consent of the guardian or ‘wali’ (there is a difference of opinion amongst the scholars in Islam whether this is obligatory or not.)

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.395 Narrated by Anas

The Prophet (saws) seeing a yellow mark (of perfume) on the clothes of 'Abdur-Rahman bin 'Auf, said, "What about you?" 'Abdur-Rahman replied, "I have married a woman with a Mahr of gold equal to a date-stone." The Prophet (saws) said, "May Allah bestow His Blessing on you (in your marriage). Give a wedding banquet, (Walima) even with one sheep."

And it is the preferred Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws) to offer a ‘walima’ or marriage banquet after the Nikaah. The Messenger of Allah (saws) strongly advised the believers not to invite only the rich to the banquet, but make sure that even the poor are invited.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.106 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: “The worst food is that of a wedding banquet (walima) to which only the rich are invited while the poor are not invited. And he who refuses an invitation (to a banquet) disobeys Allah and His Messenger (saws).”

The Sunnah is to make the marriage an easy and affordable affair, but unfortunately today a lot of customs and rituals have crept in the process of marriage, most of which have absolutely no basis in Islam. Most of these processes are no more than a boast and a show, one party trying to outdo the other’s wedding, and an open ground for the spread of indecency, and the mix gathering of the sexes; thus playing straight into the hands of the Shaytaan. So much wealth is squandered in such marriages that it tends to become a burden on the poor of society when it is their turn to get married.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verses 26-27:

26 And render to the kindred their due rights as (also) to those in want and to the wayfarer: but squander not (your wealth) in the manner of a spendthrift.

27 Verily spendthrifts are brothers of the Shaytaan; and the Shaytaan is to his Lord ungrateful.

If there is one term which would describe a marriage according to Sunnah in todays time, then that word would have to be ‘simple’! The simpler the marriage, the closer it would be to the Sunnah!

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan