, I got married to a muslim guy we were both 18 at the time, I ran away from home and got married without the permission of my parents, because alhtough we had made it cleard we wanted to get married they refused.
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Asalamualaikum,
I ahve a question that
I hope you'll be able to answer for me.
A few yeras back about
four yeard ago, I got married to a muslim guy we were both 18 at the time, I
ran away from home and got married without the permission of my parents,
because alhtough we had made it cleard we wanted to get married they refused.
So I did a nikah and had witnesses who were all muslims and adults expet for my
cousin brother who was the only blood related person around and aged 16. BUt a
few days later I was taken to court and told thta I had to go back home to my
parents because accorfing to the islamic law the marriade is not valid because
I dindnt get the permission from my parents. So my husband and I separated but
we never divorced. and then I moved to
Please help.
Maasalam.
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Answer:
Married without Wali
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help
and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and
whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness
that there is no one (no idol, no person,
no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
There is a difference of opinion amongst the
Jurists in Islam regarding the validity of a marriage without the consent of
the ‘wali’ or guardian of the bride.
Imam Abu Hanifah of the Hanafi School of thought holds the opinion that
as long as the all the other pre-conditions of marriage are fulfilled, if for
any reason one does marry without the consent of the ‘wali’ or guardian of the
bride, such a marriage will be deemed valid and legal. The other three major
schools of thought, Maliki, Shafei, and Hanbali are of the opinion that the
consent of the ‘wali’ is an obligatory condition of marriage, and a marriage
without the consent of the ‘wali’ would be deemed null and void.
Your Statement: BUt a few days
later I was taken to court and told thta I had to go back home to my parents
because accorfing to the islamic law the marriade is not valid because I dindnt
get the permission from my parents.
In any case, because the Shariah Court Judge ruled
in your case that your marriage to the person without the consent of your
‘wali’ was invalid according to Islamic Law, your marriage will be deemed
officially null and void in the Sight of Islamic Law and of Allah Subhanah, and
thus there would be absolutely no need for you to seek a ‘divorce’ from the
person to separate from him.
Your Question: I would like to
know, was my marriage valid or not, and the fatch that we did not get a divorce
does thta mena I am still married to him?
In your specific case, since the Shariah Court
Judge ruled the first marriage as null and void, your marriage will be deemed
annulled in the Sight of Islamic Law and you will no longer be considered to be
his wife.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due
to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and well
wisher in Islam,
Burhan