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Assalamualikum .. i would like to know if its correct to marry the person whom i like ? i even want to know any dua`s which can be read to marry a particular person. help me out . Allah hafiz.

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Answer:

Marry someone who is liked

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question: i would like to know if its correct to marry the person whom i like ?

Dear and Beloved Sister, Islam absolutely encourages the believers to choose a spouse in marriage whom one likes, and definitely not whom one hates!

And that is why Allah Subhanah, in His Perfect and Absolute Wisdom and Knowledge has granted the woman in Islam the final say in whom she chooses to marry; as no marriage in Islam is valid without the prior consent of the girl.

Your Question: i even want to know any dua`s which can be read to marry a particular person. help me out .

Dear and Beloved Sister, whenever one has to choose between several good options, one should follow the example of the Noble Messenger of Allah (saws) and perform the prayers of ‘istakhara’ and supplicate Allah Subhanah as the Prophet (saws) supplicated:

Allahomma Inni Astakheeroka Bi'ilmik. Wa'astaqdiroka Biqodratik. Wa'as'aloka
min Fadlikal-azeem. Fa'innaka Taqdiru Wala Aqdir. Wata'lamo Wala-a'lam.
Wa'anta-'allamul ghuyoob.

Allahomma In Kunta Ta'lamu Anna (Hathal-Amra) Khayul-lee Fi Deenee Wama'ashi
Wa'ajila Amri Wa'ajilah, Faqdorho lee, Wayassirho lee, Thomma-barik lee fih.

Wa'in Konta Ta'lamo Anna (Hathal-Amra) sharrul-lee Fi Deenee. Wama'ashi.
Wa'ajila Amri. Wa'ajilaho. Fasrifho 'annee. Wasrifnee 'anh. Waqdur
leyal-khayr Haytho kan. Thomma ardini Bih.

Translation of du'a:
(O Allah! I seek Your guidance (in making a choice) by virtue of Your
knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your
great bounty. You have power, I have none. And You know, I know not. You are
the Knower of hidden things.
O Allah! If in Your knowledge, (this matter) is good for my religion, my
livelihood and my affairs; immediate and in the distant, then ordain for me,
make it easy for me and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge, (this
matter) is bad for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs; immediate and
in the distant, then turn it away from me, and turn me away from it. And
ordain for me the good wherever it be and make me pleased with it.)

Nu'man b. Bashir reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "Verily supplication is worship."

Narrated by Ahmad and Sunan.

Abu Hurairah reported, "The Prophet (saws) said, "Nothing is more dear to Allah than one's supplication to Him.''

Narrated by Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah.

It is considered an act of worship in Islam to implore and beseech Allah Subhanah for whatever good one’s heart desires; but one should Trust Allah Subhanah when the thing one asks for is not given and sincerely accept and submit to His Divine Decision with the conviction that if that thing was good for the person, Allah would surely have given it to him in this world. He Knows what is best for us and we know not.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 216 (part): ….But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah knoweth and ye know not.

It may be that the person you wish to marry might make your life miserable, and it may be that the person you don’t wish to marry is the one who would honor and respect you in this life and be a source for you to achieve success in the Hereafter! It is Allah Alone Who Knows, and the believers must always keep their full trust in the Wisdom and Knowledge of Allah Subhanah, the Lord of the Worlds and always be grateful and content for whatever He has provided us with.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan