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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

AOA,
i did istakhara about my marraige, and i saw that i was crying with tears in my dream bceuase my mother was discussing about her death.

I was crying in that istakhara,please tell me should i marry with that person or not.

What does that mean? I did istakhara for marraige and i was crying with tears.Is this a good signe or not.Should i marry with person or not?????????????
Please tell me

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Answer:

Marriage istakhara dream

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

When one consults the All Knowing, All Wise Lord when one has a choice between several good options by doing ‘istakhara’, it is not necessary that one receives the answer through a dream. When doing ‘istakhara’ one asks the All Knowing, All Wise Lord to facilitate the option that is best for him/her in the life of this world and the Hereafter, and to obstruct or hold away all the other options; for our Merciful Lord indeed is the One Who Alone has the Perfect Knowledge of everything.

What is really important is the condition of one’s heart in determining the result of the ‘istakhara’. If one makes a choice amongst the several good options, and one’s heart is content with that option, and it seems that everything is falling in its place when one pursues that option…then one should be convinced that this option is the one which is Pleasing in the sight of Allah Subhanah.

But if one makes a choice between his/her several good options, and nothing seems to be falling in place, but rather every turn is met with an obstruction, and one’s heart is not content with that option…then one should be convinced that this option is not the one that is Pleasing to Allah Subhanah.

In your particular case, your istakhara about your marriage and your mother seen crying in the dream because she is discussing about her death may be two absolutely different incidents; although ‘crying’ in a dream is not considered a good sign.

Your Question: I was crying in that istakhara, please tell me should i marry with that person or not.
This all depends on the condition of your heart whether your heart is content in marrying the person you have chosen, and if all the matters concerning the implementation of the choice is easily facilitated. You alone have best knowledge of the condition of your heart, and this is a decision you will have to make yourself.

At all times, keep your full Trust in the Wisdom and Power of your Merciful Lord, Who is well aware of the conditions of each of His slaves. Constantly supplicate to Him in humility and in fear and beg Him to make the trial of life easy for you, to be grateful when He bestows His Mercy on you, and to be patient when He Decrees a trial for you. To Allah we all belong, and to Him is our ultimate return.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 9 Surah Taubah verse 51:Say: "Nothing will happen to us except what Allah has decreed for us: He is our Protector": and on Allah let the believers put their trust.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 160:If Allah helps you none can overcome you: if He forsakes you who is there after that that can help you? In Allah then let believers put their trust.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan