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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Assalamu Alaikkum

We are looking a partner for my daughter and the same time her class mate who is not muslim came to us and proposed my daughter and told that he learns Islam and he wanted to convert and he wanted to know our decition. My Husband is fully against while he thinks my daughter will be alonly without a family. I am affraid that Allah will punish us that we didn`t encourage him to rewart. I am really disturbed. He is a good boy and learning islam. What is your anwer for this situation. Jazakkam Allah 

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Answer:

Revert asks for daughters hand

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Respected sister in Islam, the decision of the non-muslim boy to revert to the Truth of Islam is (or should be) completely isolated and distinct from his proposal to marry your daughter. If Allah Subhanah has blessed the disbelieving boy to understand and comprehend the Truth of Islam, he will (or should) revert to Islam regardless of whether he is able to marry your daughter or not!

If the real intention of the non-muslim boy to become a muslim is only so that he would become legally eligible to marry your daughter, there is a probability he would revert to disbelief after his intentions of marriage are fulfilled.

Thus my respected sister, do encourage the non-muslim boy to understand, comprehend, and revert to the Truth of Al-Islam….and only after your heart is completely satisfied that the boy has accepted Islam and ‘eman’ has thoroughly entered his heart, you can make a decision whether or not he is suitable for your daughter to marry.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan