What should i do if my parents dont approve of the person i want to marry just because he is not the same nationality as me but is a muslim.
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what should i do if my parents dont approve of the person i want to marry just
because he is not the same nationality as me but is a muslim.
thank you
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Answer:
Parents approval for
marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verse 54:
54 It is He Who has created man from water: then has He
established relationships through blood and (through) marriage: for thy
Lord has Power (over all things).
Islam guides that a marriage is not merely a union of two
people who love each other, but rather a sacred union that unites two whole
families….thus if one is faced with a situation whereby one’s daughter is so in
‘love’ with an eligible believer and the parents of the girl are satisfied with
the character and the practice of religion of the proposed suitor…..they may
accede to the choice of their daughter.
If for any reason one finds that their parents are just
not willing to consent to their choice, it would be better for her to marry
another boy whom both, she and her parents approve of….for marriage in Islam is
but a ‘Sunnah’ (voluntary), but to obey and be dutiful to the lawful commands
of one’s parents is ‘Fard-ayn’ or absolutely obligatory upon every believer who
sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941 Narrated byAbu Umamah
A man said, "O Messenger of Allah (saws)
what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or
your relation with them will determine) your
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.821 Narrated by Anas
The Prophet (saws) was asked about the ‘Grave
Sins’, and He (saws) replied, "They are:--
(1 ) To join others in worship with Allah,
(2) To be undutiful to one's parents,
(3) To kill a person (which Allah has
forbidden to kill)
(4) And to give a false witness."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated by Abud Darda
When a man came to him and said, "I have
a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he
had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the
gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verse 216:
216 ……But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you
and that ye love a thing which is bad for you.
But Allah Knows and ye know not.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and
commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any
other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be
assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister