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Assalamoalaikum Brother Burhan,

A person marry against his wishes because of his parents but he don’t except her as wife n after some times he marries his own choice.

But he realise his mistake after some years n want to compensate and make that relation. In these years he took good care for her . She also live with patiently for the sake of Allah n parents..

In this condition could he make this relation. If yes then what would be the criterion..

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Answer:

Marriage relation

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Your Question: A person marry against his wishes because of his parents but he don’t except her as wife……..

First and foremost brother, to perform the ‘nikaah’ and marry a woman whom one does not wish to marry, and furthermore to not accept and treat the woman as one’s wife after the ‘nikaah’ is to make a complete mockery of the Laws of Shariah and the sacred institution of marriage in the Sight of The Lord Most Majestic, Most Supreme!

Regardless of the condition of one’s heart, as long as one agreed to marry the woman at the time of the ‘nikaah’, and provided all the other obligatory conditions of the ‘nikaah’ were honored….the marriage itself will be absolutely legal and valid in the Sight of Shariah Law and in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

If one fulfilled all the obligatory conditions of the ‘nikaah’ and furthermore agreed to marry the woman at the time of ‘nikaah’….but for some reason did not accept the woman as his wife, nor did he fulfill her legal rights in the marriage, without an iota of a doubt, such a person has unjustly usurped the lawful rights of his wife in the Sight of Allah Subhanah! It would only be fitting for a believer who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day that he turn towards his Lord in ‘taubah’ and seek sincere forgiveness for his manifest injustice and oppression, and also the forgiveness of his wife whose rights he has unjustly usurped…..if he is indeed sincere in his repentance and amends his conduct with his wife thereafter, it is expected that he will find his Lord Forgiving and Merciful.

Your Question: ….n after some times he marries his own choice.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 3:

3 If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans marry women of your choice two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one or (a captive) that your right hands possess. That will be more suitable to prevent you from doing injustice.

Islam indeed allows and permits a believer to seek to marry more than one wife upto a maximum of four, if indeed one wishes to do so….but one is obliged by Shariah Law to treat all his wives equally.

Thus if you exercised your lawful option to take a second wife, you were well within your rights to do so….provided you treat both your wives equally.

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2128 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘When a man has two wives and he is inclined to one of them, he will come on the Day of resurrection with a side hanging down.’

Your Question: But he realise his mistake after some years n want to compensate and make that relation. In these years he took good care for her . She also live with patiently for the sake of Allah n parents.. In this condition could he make this relation. If yes then what would be the criterion..
Respected brother in Islam, we reiterate again, if all the obligatory condition of a ‘nikaah’ were fulfilled, absolutely regardless of whether or not you accepted the woman as your wife in your heart….your marriage with the woman will be considered absolutely legal and valid in the Sight of Shariah Law and in the Sight of Allah Subhanah unless and until a divorce is established in the marriage.

If no divorce was established in the marriage, the woman will be considered your lawful and legal wife….not only would it be lawful in Islam for you to develop and maintain marital relations with her, it would be considered absolutely obligatory in Islam to do so!

Because you have obviously unjustly usurped the lawful rights of your wife in the marriage for all these years, it would only be piety and righteousness that you seek the forgiveness of your wife, and above all the forgiveness of Allah Subhanah for your injustice and amend your conduct….it is expected that you will find your Lord Forgiving and Merciful.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan