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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

My husband has married another women , who is having two children with him, iam having 4 children, he loves me and spend al lot of time with me and my children , he is not in a position to give time equally to both of us and he is always in stress due to her {second wife} behaviour , she is not loving so, plz suggest some way for him to get rid of her and tell what he can do to prevent himself from doing sin by not doing justice to both. 

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Answer:

Second wife issues

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 3:

3 If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one or (a captive) that your right hands possess. That will be more suitable to prevent you from doing injustice.

Dear and beloved Sister, Allah Subhanah has given the believers the option and made it lawful for them to marry more than one wife (upto a maximum of four) on the condition that they will deal with justice amongst their wives, especially in the amount of time and resources one spends towards them.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 129:

129 Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from one wife) altogether so as to leave her (as if it were) hanging (in the air).

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2128 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘When a man has two wives and he is inclined to one of them (ie. he does not do justice amongst his wives), he will come on the Day of resurrection with a side hanging down.’

If a person was not in a position to do justice amongst his wives, he should have feared Allah and not exercised his option to marry multiple wives. But if the person has taken the decision to marry more than one wife, then it is absolutely obligatory upon him to deal justly between his wives, especially in the amount of time and resources he spends towards them. If Allah forbid one is more inclined towards one of his wife at the expense of the other, he will be guilty of injustice and the Messenger of Allah (saws) declared that such a person will come on the Day of Judgment with one of his sides hanging down.

Your Question: plz suggest some way for him to get rid of her and tell what he can do to prevent himself from doing sin by not doing justice to both. 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.598 Narrated by Abu Huraira

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "No woman should ask for the divorce of her sister (Muslim) so as to take her place, but she should marry the man (without compelling him to divorce his other wife), for she will have nothing but what Allah has written for her."

First and foremost sister, it is not lawful for you as the first wife to instigate, influence, or encourage your husband to divorce the other wife….but rather you should fear Allah Subhanah and guide your husband to fear his Lord and encourage him to do justice between his wives and save himself from sin…..that would constitute piety and righteousness on your part in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

Your husband is obviously well within his rights to divorce one or both of his wives, if he wishes to do so…..but that is a decision he has to make for himself.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan