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Assalam Aleykum Brother Burqan!

First of all let me tell u that even though I am not a Muslim, but I am extremely interested to study this religion. I had come across this site while surfing the net, and found it very informative. Many of my queries were answered as I was going through ur informative answers. Thanx. I was rather highly impressed to have felt ur unfathomable knowledge. I admire your wisdom and trust it even more than my own inner thoughts` romptings.

My question is not so much related to the religion but i still belive that you can help me, question is that i have a friend with whom we thought will be living in a family. But problem is 5 years ago he got transplanted his lungs due to some problems. And nowadays also very oftenly he gets sick. And our relations are very good and there is no problems at all between us. But only the thing i am afraid of future and he himself knows that he will not be able to stay more longer. And sometimes he says me that i should leave him, but i can`t do that, in the same time as i told you before i am afraid of my future too. My parents too say me that i should leave him. Please, What can you suggest me from the point of Islam in this regard?

Please help me to find out the best sollution from this situation. I feel myself like an unanchored ship trapped in the stormiest sea. Awaiting ur quick response, Kindly your sister!

May Peace Be Upon You!

Assalam Aleykum!

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Answer:

Marry ill Person

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Statement:…..First of all let me tell u that even though I am not a Muslim, but I am extremely interested to study this religion.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 185:

This Book (The Al-Quraan) is a Perfect Guidance for all mankind and consists of clear Teachings which show the Right Way, and are a Criterion of the Truth and falsehood.

Respected sister in humanity, we absolutely assure you that the guidance of the Glorious Quran is not a monopoly of the ‘muslims’….but the Lord Creator Himself Declares in Truth that His Guidance is for all of mankind……

We do indeed appreciate your honesty regarding your admission that you are not (yet) a believer; and we hope and pray that the Lord Creator opens your heart to accept His Guidance of Truth.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 125:

The hearts of those whom Allah Wills to guide, He opens to Islam.

Your Statements: ……I was rather highly impressed to have felt ur unfathomable knowledge. I admire your wisdom and trust it even more than my own inner thoughts` promptings.

Dear and beloved sister, just as you have been so honest with us…..it is only befitting that we too be extremely honest with you. Allah is our witness sister, we are neither wise, nor intelligent, nor knowledgeable as you might envision us to be ……if you have found any good or merit in the articles or answers we have written, the whole and complete credit should be given to whom it is truly and solely due….and that is to the Perfect and Absolute Wisdom and Knowledge of the Lord Who Created.

Beloved Sister, unless and until we are specifically asked to do so, we rarely or seldom give our own opinion on a matter being asked…..all we ever do when any question is posed on this forum is relate what is related in the Divine Source of Guidance; ie. The Al-Quran!

Thus if any of our answers have found acceptance with you, it is only because your own nature is true enough to recognize the Truth and the Good from the Lord Who Created.

Your Question: ……What can you suggest me from the point of Islam in this regard?

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imran verse 145:

145 Nor can a soul die except by Allah's leave; the term being fixed as by Decree.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 63 Surah Munafeqoon verse 11:

11 But to no soul will Allah grant respite when the time appointed (for its death) has come: and Allah is well-acquainted with (all) that ye do.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraf verse 34:

34 To every people is a term appointed: when their term is reached not an hour (moment) can they cause delay, nor (a moment) can they advance it!

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chatper 6 Surah Anaam verse 61:

61 He (Allah Subhanah) is The Irresistible (Watching) from above over his worshippers and He sets guardians (Angels) over you. At length when death approaches one of you, Our Angels take his soul (at the exact appointed time and place), and they never fail in their duty!

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 78:

78 "Whersoever ye are, death will find you out (at its exact Decreed time); even if ye are in towers built up strong and high!"

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 32 Surah As-Sajdah verse 11:

11 Say: "The Angel of Death put in charge of you will (duely) take your souls (at the Decreed time and place): then shall ye be brought back to your Lord."

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.430 Narrated by Abdullah bin Musud

Allah's Messenger (saws)said, "(The matter of the Creation of) a human being is put together in the womb of the mother in forty days, and then he becomes a clot of thick blood for a similar period, and then a piece of flesh for a similar period. Then Allah sends an Angel who is ordered to record four things. He is ordered to write down his (i.e. the new creature's) deeds, his livelihood, his (exact time, place and date of) death, and whether he will be blessed or wretched (in religion). Then the soul is breathed into him.”

The amount of time each and every individual will live to give his test on this earth is Decreed by none other than the Lord Creator Himself; even before the soul is entered into the bodies of the unborn when it is still in its mothers womb!!!

As much as it may seem that a person who is severely ill may not have much time, is there any who is extremely healthy, and engrossed day and night in planning how he will live his life for the next 50 years……. who can lay claim with confidence that he will still be alive for another hour, leave alone outlive the one who is ‘expected’ to die!!

The ultimate truth and the very nature of the element of death is that it is an ‘ambush’….and it will appear at the exact time when the Lord Creator has Decreed for it to appear!

Thus sister, if the only thing stopping you from solemnizing your relationship with your ‘friend’ into the sacred bond of marriage is ‘time’…..then know with absolute conviction that the ‘time’ of death of each individual is known to none save the Lord Creator. It may very well happen that the one whom we ‘expect’ to die may far outlive us; and the ones we ‘expect’ to live a long life are recalled unto their Lord in a split-second!

Beloved Sister, you may do as your heart and your wisdom guides you to do….but let not the factor of ‘time’ be the determining factor in your decision whether to enjoin or break relations with someone whom you so care about.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan