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Dear Sir,

One of my very gud friend asked me this question from me the :-

Q- he had a love marriage ( 3 years ago), but just before marraiage he came to know that his wife was previously involved with another boy and they both had phsyical relation also.When he enquire from his wife about this she said that yaa she had relation but now she is totally committed to him and then they both married.

After marraiage he found that his wife is really totally very much caring / committed to him, but like every marraiage life she also have some fights in which she says / treat him like that he was very notorious before marraige ( which he was not) she never thought about her that in what circumstances he accepted her and since then he ( my friend) never bring this topic in there ln marraiage life.

But since then whenever they had small fights betweeen them, then those thoughts comes in his mind again about his wife.

Otherwise there marraiage life is going on very gud and normal.

You are reqerusted to please give relevant detail / articles on above matter&

Is it a gud deed to marray a girl who was phsically involved with some body else before.

Warm regards.

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Answer:

Marry one who did zina

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Your Question: ….Is it a gud deed to marray a girl who was phsically involved with some body else before.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 3:

3 Let no man guilty of ‘zina’ marry any but a woman similarly guilty or a disbeliever; nor let any but such a man or a disbeliever marry such a woman: to the believers such a thing is forbidden.

Islam absolutely discourages and prohibits the believers, men and women, who sincerely believe in Allah and the Last Day to seek to marry spouses who are known to have committed ‘zina’…..unless of course, that person who committed the abomination of ‘zina’ in their past, is sincerely repentant for their manifest transgression of the prescribed boundaries of Allah Subhanah.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:

When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."

If one was involved in the abomination of ‘zina’ in their past, and subsequently they turned in ‘taubah’ unto their Lord and sought His sincere forgiveness, it is expected that their Lord will turn unto them in Mercy, forgive them their abomination, and completely wipe out their sin from their ‘book of records’.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."

Your Question: …..But since then whenever they had small fights betweeen them, then those thoughts comes in his mind again about his wife.

Otherwise there marraiage life is going on very gud and normal.

You are reqerusted to please give relevant detail / articles on above matter&

If one has married a woman whom one knows and/or finds out was involved physically with another man before their marriage…..and the husband has knowledge that his wife had subsequently turned unto her Lord in sincere ‘taubah’ and sought sincere forgiveness for her manifest transgression…..it would only be akin to piety and righteousness in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, and a character becoming of a believer that he absolutely disregard that past sin of his wife, and neither hint nor remind her or even himself of that sin that transpired in her past.

If one looks in one’s own past, one will find a multitude of sins one might have done which the Lord Most Merciful has screened from being exposed…..Just as one wishes that the Lord would forgive them their past sins, it would only be piety and righteousness in the Sight of Allah if the husband were to forgive and overlook the past deeds of his wife, deeds for which she has already sought sincere repentance.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 22:

……let them forgive and overlook: do you not wish that Allah should forgive you? For Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 2.373 Narrated by Usama bin Zaid

The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: “Allah is merciful only to those of His slaves who are merciful (to others)."

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.26 Narrated by Abu Huraira

Allah's Messenger (saws) said: "Whoever is not merciful to others will not be treated mercifully (by the Lord Most Gracious, Most High)."

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan