Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Asalam-O-Alaikum,

My question is a bit odd and I think this should be answered as it is being practised by most of the muslim societies.

When a couple gets married, the mans house mates give the girl a cloth to keep under them when they sleep on the first night to see if the girl is a virgin. If there is no blood the girl is said not to be virgin and they think she had sex before.

Well for the girl to loose its virginity their might be other reasons, such as horse riding, bicycle riding, or an accident where a girl can loose her virginity. How does Islam see this act of many muslim societies. Is this act allowed in Islam, is there no trust left amongnst people that they want to verify the virginity of the girl.

Marriage is an act of worship, and worship is laid on the foundation of trust. How do you see this as per the Islamic law.

Please guide me. Thanx. 

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Answer:

Rite to confirm virginity of bride

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

First and foremost brother it is absolutely inaccurate to assume to believe that such an evil practice is widespread amongst the believing community, or that most muslim societies practice this self-invented, inhumane, unlawful, and humiliating ritual!!!

To present a newly married couple with a sheet to determine the virginity of the bride is absolutely unacceptable and unlawful, and it is no more than an ignorant and pagan custom which some amongst the ignorant amongst the muslims may have adopted….we absolutely assure you that such an evil and humiliating rite and ritual has absolutely nothing to do with the Guidance of Islam!

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan