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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

I want to marry a girl who is a muslim but i am having a lot of problems
1) I wasnt that religious some time back but now i am and i told her to wear a hijab and she refuses to in this case what should i do should i leave her
2) her parents take intrest from the bank after knowing also that it is haram and they want to contribute in the marriage, can i accept thier money since it is haram can i also take gifts from such people and use them or eat at such peoples place. 

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Answer:

Advice prophet(saws) choice marriage and use interest

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Sahih Muslim Hadith 3465 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As

Allah's Messenger (saws) said: ‘The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman.’

One may seek to marry a woman for any one (or more) of four reasons (her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, or her practice in religion), and the Messenger of Allah (saws) advised, encouraged, and guided the believers to give the utmost precedence to the piety, righteousness, and the practice of religion of the woman when one is seeking marriage….otherwise, without an iota of a doubt, one will end up in severe loss, not only in the short and transient life of this world, but maybe even in the eternal life of the Hereafter!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imran verse 31-32:

O Prophet, tell the people, “If you sincerely love Allah, follow me. Then Allah will love you and forgive you your sins, for He is All Forgiving, All Merciful.” Also say to them, “Obey Allah and His Messenger.” And if, in spite of this, they do not accept your invitation, warn them that Allah does not love those, who refuse to obey Him and His Messenger.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 72 Surah Jinn verse 23:

23 ….for any that disobey and Allah His Messenger for them is Hell: they shall dwell therein forever.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 14:

14 But those who disobey Allah and His Messenger, and transgress His limits will be admitted to a Fire to abide therein: and they shall have a Humiliating Punishment.

Beloved brother, it is absolutely evident from the above Verses of the Quran that those who disobey an obligatory Command of Allah and His Messenger (saws) they will have a Humiliating Penalty…..to give precedence to the quality of piety and practice of religion when seeking an eligible woman to marry is only the advice of the Messenger of Allah (saws); but we absolutely assure that those who refuse to accept even the advice of Allah and His Messenger (saws) will bring nothing but utter loss and ruin upon themselves!

Now to answer your specific questions:

Your Question: I wasnt that religious some time back but now i am and i told her to wear a hijab and she refuses to in this case what should i do should i leave her
Beloved Brother, if you have already married the sister, then honor the sacred bond of marriage and with wisdom, and above all patience exhort your wife to fear Allah her Lord, and fulfill her obligatory duty by adorning herself in the ‘hijaab’ as Commanded by Allah Subhanah. If after your very best and polite efforts, your wife still refuses to obey the obligatory Command of her Lord to adorn herself in the ‘hijaab’ when in the presence of non-mehram men, you are well within your rights to threaten to separate from a wife who after being sufficiently warned, still refuses to obey an obligatory Command of her Lord Creator.

But if you have not yet performed the ‘nikaah’ with the sister, and your fiancé openly refuses and shows absolutely no intention to obey and fulfill the requirements of ‘hijaab’; perhaps it would suit you best to submit to the advice of the Messenger of Allah (saws) and seek to marry a more pious and God-fearing woman.

Your Question: her parents take intrest from the bank after knowing also that it is haram and they want to contribute in the marriage, can i accept thier money since it is haram can i also take gifts from such people and use them or eat at such peoples place. 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34 (part):

34 Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other, and because they support them from their means.

Islam has laid the complete financial responsibility upon the shoulders of the men; and it is only right that the complete financial expense of the marriage and beyond is borne solely by the groom and his family. The bride or her family are not obliged to spend even a cent on the marriage of their daughter. But if the family of the bride, of their own free will and without any coersion whatsoever, wish to spend or participate in the sharing of the marriage expenses for any reason whatsoever, they are well within their rights to propose to do so.

If one has prior knowledge that the absolute and complete wealth of one’s in-laws is accumulated from unlawful means; indeed one should politely but firmly refuse from accepting it. But if one knows that a part of their wealth is lawful and a part of their wealth is unlawful, then there is no harm if one reluctantly accepts some funds, gifts, etc. from them if one wishes to do so, in the assumption that the amount they have received from them is from their lawfully earned wealth. And Allah Alone Knows Best.

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan