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Assalamu Alaikum. please clarify this doubt : if someone asks his wife to masturbate him, is it necessary for the husband to perform the obligatory ghusl (like after intercourse) or is it sufficient to wash his private parts only.

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Answer:

Ghusl after sex discharge

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Fiqh-us-Sunnah Fiqh 1.10

Wadi is a thick white secretion discharged (by some people) after urination. It is considered impure. Aishah said, " Wadi comes out after urination. The person should wash the private parts and perform ablution. It is not necessary to perform ghusl. This is related by Ibn al-Mundhir. Ibn 'Abbas related that "mani” (ejaculation or full sexual discharge) requires ghusl. As for “madhi” (prostatic fluid or initial sexual discharge) and ‘wadi’ they require a complete purification." This is related by al-Athram. Al-Baihaqi has it with the wording, "Concerning ‘madhi’ and ‘wadi’, he said, 'Wash your sexual organs and perform the same type of ablution as you perform for prayer."'

Other than urine, there are basically three types of discharges that are released from one’s private organs:

1. Wadi (a thick white secretion immediately after uniration by some people)
2. Madhi (a sort of slow release of lubricant just prior to a full sexual discharge)
3. Mani (a full sexual discharge)

If only Wadi or Madhi is released, one does not require a ‘ghusl’ or full bath to purify himself; he must wash his private parts and the part of his clothes or body where the ‘wadi’ or ‘madhi’ has touched, do the wudu, and he would be available for prayer.

But when the ‘Mani’ or a full sexual discharge is released, it would become obligatory for the person to perform a ‘ghusl’ or full bath to purify oneself before making oneself available for prayer.

Your Question: ….if someone asks his wife to masturbate him, is it necessary for the husband to perform the obligatory ghusl (like after intercourse) or is it sufficient to wash his private parts only.

Regardless of how one experiences a full sexual discharge (semen), whether it be through sexual intercourse, wet-dream, masturbation, etc…..one would be considered to be in the state of major ceremonial impurity (janaba) and a ‘ghusl’ or full bath of purification would be absolutely obligatory on such a person before he makes himself available for prayer.

The mere washing of one’s private parts after a full sexual discharge of semen would not suffice to cleanse one from their state of major ceremonial impurity (janaba); it would be absolutely obligatory for one who is in the state of ‘janaba’ to perform the ‘ghusl’ before making themselves available for prayer.

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Burhan