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I want to ask a question in the light of hadith can a wife go n stay with her un married brother in law who is not good to her in his husbands absence,plz enighten me by anwering me through hadiths.

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Wife and hamu in law relation

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Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.159 Narrated by Uqba bin Amir

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Beware of entering upon the (non-mehram) ladies." A man from the Ansar said, "O Allah's Messenger (saws)! What about ‘Al-Hamu’ (the non-mehram in-laws of the wife like the brothers of her husband, or his nephews etc.)?" The Prophet (saws) replied: ‘The ‘Hamu’ of the wife are death itself!!’

The relation of ‘Al-Hamu’ (non-mehram male in-laws of the wife) are such that in-spite of being non-mehrams, they are such regular visitors to the house and are treated as such close relatives, that at times it is possible that the sanctity of the ‘hijaab’ with them is compromised.

Because of their proximity of relations, it is possible that the wife lets her guard down towards her ‘Hamu’ relatives, and one amongst them who possesses an evil heart is drawn towards her or his behavior gives rise to suspicion or accusation of developing an illicit relationship with the wife. The effect of such situations, suspicions, or accusations are so devastating that not only would it jeopardize the sacred relationship between a husband and a wife, but Allah forbid, it might even result in a brother becoming an enemy of his own brother!

That is precisely why the Messenger of Allah (saws) guided the believing woman to be extra careful in her dealings with her ‘Hamu’ relatives calling this relation death and destruction itself; never ever let her guard down with them, treat and behave with them exactly as she would with a non-mehram, never ever sit with them alone, or engage privately in vain or casual talk with them….but at all times, honor and scrupulously preserve the sanctity of the ‘hijaab’ with them.

A casual relationship with the ‘Al-Hamu’ relatives has the potential to give rise to suspicions and accusations, and not only jeopardize the sacred relationship between a husband and wife in marriage, but also the relationship of a brother with his own brother….that is precisely why the Messenger of Allah (saws) warned the believing woman to guard her honor and ‘hijaab’ with her ‘Hamu’ relatives as she would guard herself against death or destruction itself.

Your Question: can a wife go n stay with her un married brother in law who is not good to her in his husbands absence.

Although there is no restriction in Shariah for a wife to go and stay in the house of her ‘brother-in-law’ with the permission of her husband, the wife must be extremely careful and scrupulously and strictly honor the conditions of ‘hijaab’ when amongst the ‘Al-Hamu’ (the non-mehram male in-laws) as guided by the Messenger of Allah (saws).

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Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan