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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

my mother is a cristien ..non muslim but my father is a muslim and so am i they wre seperated when i was only 4 years old now i am 28 ans married my question is that when ever i read Quran and hadees where it is mensiond the rights of mother on children and that if u serve them in good menner u will be rewarded jannat ..heaven .. what about me being a daughter of a non muslim mother .. where is my jannat? 

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Answer:

Serve duty rights non muslim parents

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question: what about me being a daughter of a non muslim mother .. where is my jannat?

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Bani Israel verses 23-24:

Your Lord has enjoined the following: You should not worship anyone but Him Alone! Treat your parents with great kindness; if either or both of them attain old age, do not even say ‘uff’ to them; nor rebuke them; but speak to them kind words. Treat them with humility and tenderness and pray, “O our Lord, be merciful to them, just as they brought me up with kindness and affection in my childhood.”

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941 Narrated by Abu Umamah

A man said, "O Messenger of Allah (saws), what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or your relation with them will determine) your Paradise or your Hell."

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.18 Narrated by Aisha

The Prophet (saws) said: "The word 'Ar-Rahm' (womb) derives its name from 'Ar-Rahman' (i.e. Allah). So whosoever keeps good relations with it (womb i.e. kith and kin), Allah will keep good relations with him, and whosoever will sever it (i.e. severs his bonds of kith and kin) Allah too will sever His relations with him!"

Sahih Muslim Hadith 6189 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) said: ‘Let him be humbled into dust! Let him be humbled into dust!’ It was said: ‘O Allah's Messenger (saws), who is he?’ He (saws) said: ‘He who sees either of his parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does not enter Paradise (through his deeds of service towards them)!’

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 5120 Narrated by Mu'awiyah ibn Hayadah

I asked: ‘O Messenger of Allah(saws)! To whom should I show kindness most?’ He (saws) replied: ‘Your mother.’ I asked (again): ‘Who next?’. He (saws) replied: ‘Your mother!’. I asked: ‘Who next?’ He (saws) replied: ‘Your mother!’ I asked again: ‘Who next?’ and he (saws) replied: ‘Your father, and then your relatives in order of relationship.’

Beloved sister, one cannot over-emphasize the importance and significance Islam has laid upon its followers in serving one’s parents. Regardless of whether one or both of their parents are believers or disbelievers, it is an absolutely obligatory duty and responsibility of the believers to serve their parents with humility, sincerity, love, mercy, tenderness, kindness and consideration.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 31 Surah Luqman verses 14-15:

14 And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command) "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal.”

15 But if they (the disbelieving parents) strive to make thee join in worship with Me things of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not (in that matter alone); yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration) and follow the way of those who turn to Me in the End the return of you all is to Me and I will tell you the truth of all that ye did."

Beloved sister in Islam, even if your mother is a non-muslim, even if she has sought divorce from your father for whatever reason, even if she has now married someone else,…..whatever the situation or condition, you will always remain her daughter and it is your obligatory duty unto your mother and your Lord that you be in constant contact with her, be kind to her, serve her, and fulfill every one of her lawful needs to the absolute best of your ability.

Regardless if one’s parents are believers or disbelievers, there is absolutely no difference in the duty and command of their believing children towards them…..it is an absolutely obligatory duty of the believing children to be humble, kind, tender, and serve and obey their parents in all matters, except if their parents command them to do something which is against the Commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws)….only in that specific subject matter they shall not be obeyed!

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3696 Narrated by An-Nawwas ibn Sam'an

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the Creator."

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan