I was married at the age of 15.
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I was married at the age of 15. I was with him for 1 year with long intervals and later he went away leaving me at my parent`s house n didnt turn up for 5 years and now he is here and wants me to continue with me, but I dont wanna continue him coz I neither love him nor respect him. But my parents force me to go back. I tried hard to make up my mind and continue with my husband but in vain. I know very well that I cant go with him now. Can u tell me whatever I m doing is permissible under shariyah? Can you suggest me a way out of my problem
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Husband returns after long time
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If as you have declared your husband did not turn up for five years one year after your marriage, and thus obviously he was unable to fulfill his duties and responsibilities towards you as his wife….you are well within your rights to initiate a divorce proceedings against your husband if you wish to do so, and there would be no sin or blame upon you. If your husband disappeared for five years and did not care to fulfill his marital duties towards you without genuine reason, it is he who will be answerable for his transgression and injustice in the Just and Supreme Court of Allah Subhanah.
If you have made up your mind to separate from your husband, the one and only way is to initiate a divorce proceedings against him and seek legal separation; for unless and until a proper divorce is established, you would remain his legally wedded wife. It would neither be right nor permissible in Shariah for a man and woman to separate indefinitely without establishing a divorce.
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