Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

ASALAM WALAYKUM

i m muslim gurl and i m in love with a boy (whose father is muslim but mother is christian and her mother maked her son also christian and his father is died)he lived in christianity his whole life but when he falled in love with me he wanted to be a muslim and he already beleve that there is only ONE GOD i m 18yrs old and he is 19 yrs old he truely loves me and he want me to talk to him to give him sometime from my daily life my parents dunt knoe about it i will tell them at the right time i wanted to ask that should i be with him try to make him a true muslim or shoud i leave him ?

because if i left him then he wil again move on the way of christianity .

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Answer:

Love Christian boy

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 221:

221 Do not marry unbelieving women (idolaters) until they believe; a slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman even though she allure you. Nor marry (your girls) to unbelievers until they believe: a man slave who believes is better than un unbeliever even though he allure you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the fire. But Allah beckons by His grace to the Garden (of Bliss) and forgiveness and makes His Signs clear to mankind: that they may celebrate His praise.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5:

5 This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3118 Narrated by Umar ibn al-Khattab

The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a (non-mehram)woman, the Shaytaan makes a third."

Dear and beloved sister in Islam, your secret relationship with this non-mehram boy is without an iota of a doubt a clear and manifest transgression and a grave sin in the Sight of the Lord; thus as your brothers and sincere well-wishers in faith our humble advice to you before you do or plan anything else is to immediately turn back to your Lord seeking sincere forgiveness, immediately stop all contact with the boy, and fear your Lord in everything that you do.

Your Question: i wanted to ask that should i be with him try to make him a true muslim or shoud i leave him ? because if i left him then he wil again move on the way of christianity .

Beloved Sister, the emotional and physical attraction which nature has bestowed between a non-mehram man and a woman is such that at times it has the power to supercede all other considerations!

As much as your intentions to present and invite the Christian brother are noble, because you are emotionally attached to this non-mehram person, Allah forbid, if something untoward were to happen between the two of you, you would risk the ultimate penalty of earning the Eternal Wrath and Anger of the Lord Most High; and Allah is our witness, nothing, absolutely nothing in this universe is worth doing which has even the slightest chance of bringing upon oneself the Torment and Punishment of the Lord Most High, Most Supreme.

If this Christian brother sincerely in his heart of hearts wishes to understand and follow the Truth of Islam, rest assured that your Lord will arrange for him to be invited to the Truth and guided aright. As your brothers and sincere well-wishers in faith our humble advice to you is to fear your Lord, immediately stop all contact with this non-mehram boy, and leave him alone to his fate and destiny….simply because the risk of your involvement in this scenario is just way too high and Allah forbid, you risk your own Hereafter in your effort to bring one to whom you are unfortunately emotionally attached to accept the Truth of Islam.

If the Christian brother is indeed sincere in his search for the Truth, rest assured that your Lord is well aware of the condition of the hearts of each and every individual in His creation….and if the brother has any good in him, your Lord will surely guide him to the Truth of Al-Islam.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan