When some one dies for how many days should we Mourn for the dead? As some say 3 dyas, 10 days 40 days and we need to cook food, read Surah Al-Fatiha and distribute among the guest & poors for the dead person`s sake. Is this allowed.
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This is reference to my earlier questions (quest. no: 12424);
Jazak
Allah Kair` for the detailed answer to my query. However, I have some thing to
clarify on the same issue (hope you don`t mind) and few questions to ask.
As mentioned by you (below) that it is advisable not to have oral sex and
abstain from doing it, when we are engaged in sex and due to the
temptation/desire or ignorance if we had oral sex (knowing that is is unclean
and best to avoid it) and even though we proceed to do thinking that it is not
totally haram and sometimes we can have oral sex then is there any punishment
for it or should we stop it completey??
When some one dies for how many days should we Mourn for the dead? As some say
3 dyas, 10 days 40 days and we need to cook food, read Surah Al-Fatiha and distribute
among the guest & poors for the dead person`s sake. Is this allowed.
When a husband stops his wife (or the vice-versa if wife stops husband) from
doing anything which is prohibited in Islam what is the punishment and should
the husband/wife keep on telling either one this is not right/prohibited in
Islam or just tell one`s and then leave it as it is between Allah and the
individual.
At time of Hajj, for those who are not performing Hajj just sacrificing
goat/camel (Qurbani) do that person/individual shoud not shave or cut hairs
until the sacrifies has been done??
Appreciate yr answers to above asap. Also I want to know if we have regular
questions to ask then how should we approach you by posting the questions on
this website or is there any other way for regular queries?? Thanks for
answering.
Jazak Allah Khair
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Answer:
Days Mourn
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there
is no one (no idol, no person, no grave,
no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your
Question: ……and even though we proceed to do thinking that it is not totally
haram and sometimes we can have oral sex then is there any punishment for it or
should we stop it completey??
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 157:
157 Those who follow the Messenger, the ‘Ummi’ (unlettered) Prophet
(Mohammed (saws)) whom they find mentioned in their own (Scriptures); in the
Law and the Gospel; for he (Prophet Mohamed (saws)) commands them what is just
and forbids them what is evil: he allows them as lawful what is ‘tayyibaat’
(good and pure) and prohibits them from what is ‘Khabaayith’ (bad, evil and
impure); He releases them from their heavy burdens and from the yokes
that are upon them. So it is those who
believe in him, honor him, help him, and follow the Light which is sent down
with him: it is they who will prosper."
Because the concept of ‘oral sex’ between a husband and
wife is not specifically prohibited in the Quran and Sunnah, one cannot say
with conviction that the act is forbidden; but the absolute majority of
scholars have opined that the act whereby one spouse touches the others private
organs with their mouth is amongst the ‘khabaayith’ (evil, impure, etc.) and
closer to the ‘haraam’ than the ‘halaal’; thus the believers should fear Allah
and abstain from it.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.267 Narrated by An Numan bin Bashir
The Prophet (saws) said "Both the halaal
(lawful) and the haraam (unlawful) things are (made) obvious, and in between
them are (suspicious) doubtful matters.
So whoever forsakes those doubtful things lest he may commit a sin, will
definitely avoid what is clearly unlawful; and whoever indulges in these
(suspicious) doubtful things bravely, is likely to commit what is clearly
illegal. Sins are Allah's Hima (i.e.
private pasture) and whoever pastures (his sheep) near it, is likely to get in
it at any moment."
Your
Question: When some one dies for how many days should we Mourn for the dead? As
some say 3 dyas, 10 days 40 days and we need to cook food, read Surah Al-Fatiha
and distribute among the guest & poors for the dead person`s sake. Is this
allowed.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 2.371 Narrated by Zainab bint Abi Salama
I went to Um Habiba, the wife of Prophet
(saws), who said, "I heard the Prophet (saws) saying, 'It is not lawful
for a woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day to mourn for any dead person
for more than three days, except for her husband, (for whom she should mourn)
for four months and ten days'."
The Messenger of Allah (saws) guided that it was not
lawful for the believers to mourn for any deceased for more than three days
except for a widow, whose period of mourning is four months and ten days. It is encouraged that the believers visit the
bereaved family members of the deceased during this period, provide them with
food, share in their grief, guide them towards patience and constancy, and help
them in whatever way possible.
Other than the above, there is absolutely no example of
the Prophet (saws) ever allowing or encouraging the reading of ‘khatams’, or
allowing the reciting of ‘Quls’, or specifying further days or any kinds of
rituals like the 4th, 9th, 10th, 30th,
40th days of mourning, or
feeding, or doing any ritual for or in the name of the deceased!
All such rituals like the ‘Khatams’, the ‘Quls’, the
‘fatihah’ feeding, etc., or the specified further days of mourning like the 4th,
9th, 10th, 30th, or 40th have
absolutely nothing to do with the Sunnah or practice of the Messenger of Allah
(saws) or his noble companions; but these are absolutely manifest innovations
which some unscrupulous and ignorant people have invented and added without any
authority, long after the death of the Messenger of Allah (saws)!
Sahih Muslim Hadith 1885 Narrated by Jabir ibn Abdullah
That the Prophet of Allah (saws) said in a
sermon: “The best speech is that which
is embodied in the Book of Allah, the Al Quran;
and the best guidance is the guidance given by me, Mohamed (saws). The most evil affairs are the
innovations (bida), and every innovation (bida) is an error.”
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4515 Narrated by Ali ibn AbuTalib
That the Prophet of Allah (saws) said: “If
anyone introduces an innovation (bida in religion), he will be responsible for it. If anyone introduces an innovation (bida) or
gives shelter to a man who introduces an innovation (bida), he is cursed by
Allah, by His Angels, and by all the people!”
Your
Question: When a husband stops his wife (or the vice-versa if wife stops
husband) from doing anything which is prohibited in Islam what is the
punishment and should the husband/wife keep on telling either one this is not
right/prohibited in Islam or just tell one`s and then leave it as it is between
Allah and the individual.
When two people have been united in the sacred bond of
marriage, and one amongst them sees the other transgressing the bounds and laws
of Allah and knows with conviction that the doer of evil will be accountable
for every deed in the Just and Majestic Court of Allah Subhanah on an
Inevitable Day, it is only natural and an extension of their sincere love and
care that they warn their loved ones to fear Allah and His Day of Accounting.
If the one who is committing wrong does not heed the
other’s warning, the other should sincerely worry about them and search for
opportune moments when the doer of evil is in a listening mood and warn them
again as their sincere well-wisher of the Anger and Wrath of Allah Subhanah on
those who transgress His prescribed boundaries; it is expected that perchance
the doer of evil might fear Allah and stop his/her evil.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah
Nisaa verse 34:
34 Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has
given the one more (strength) than the other and because they support them from
their means.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.592 Narrated by Abdullah bin Umar
I heard Allah's Messenger (saws) saying,
"Everyone of you is a guardian and responsible for what is in his
custody. The ruler is a guardian of his
subjects and responsible for them; a husband is a guardian of his family and
is responsible for it; a lady is a guardian of her husband's house and
is responsible for it, and a servant is a guardian of his master's property and
is responsible for it. A man is a guardian of his father's property and is
responsible for it; so all of you are guardians and responsible for your wards
and things under your care."
Allah Subhanah has laid the responsibility of the house
and the family upon the shoulders of the man; thus if the husband sees or
observes that his wife or children are doing an act or deeds which are
absolutely against the guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws), it is his
duty and responsibility to bring an end to that evil, even if he has to use
force to do so. If the husband sees the
Laws and Boundaries of Allah openly transgressed by his wife or his children
and does absolutely nothing about it, he indeed will be held responsible for
what happened under his supervision and will share a part of the blame for the
evil.
Sahih Muslim Hadith 79 Narrated by Abu Sa'id al-Khudri
I heard the Messenger of Allah (saws) as
saying: ‘He who amongst you sees something abominable (evil) should modify it
with the help of his hand; and if he has not strength enough to do it, then he
should do it with his tongue; and if he has not strength enough to do it,
(even) then he should (abhor it) from his heart, and that is the least of
faith.’
Unlike the duties and responsibilities which Allah
Subhanah has laid upon the man, the wife is not the guardian of the
husband. Thus if she sees or observes
that her husband is doing some manifest evil, her duty is limited to warning
her husband politely but firmly to fear Allah and stop the evil.
Your
Question: At time of Hajj, for those who are not performing Hajj just
sacrificing goat/camel (Qurbani) do that person/individual shoud not shave or
cut hairs until the sacrifies has been done??
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verse 196:
196 And complete the Hajj or `Umra in the service of Allah. But if ye are prevented (from completing it)
send an offering for sacrifice such as ye may find and do not shave your
heads until the offering reaches the place of sacrifice. And if any of you is ill or has an ailment in
his scalp (necessitating shaving) (he should) in compensation either fast or
feed the poor or offer sacrifice; and when ye are in peaceful conditions
(again) if anyone wishes to continue the 'Umra on to the Hajj he must make an
offering such as he can afford it he should fast three days during the Hajj and
seven days on his return making ten days in all. This is for those whose household is not in
(the precincts of) the Sacred Mosque.
And fear Allah and know that Allah is strict in punishment.
When one intends to perform the sacred pilgrimage of Umrah
or Hajj to the Sacred House, the pilgrim commences the pilgrimage by making an
intention or entering into ‘ehraam’ and puts on a simple garment of unsewn
cloth from the appointed place of ‘Meeqat’.
The making of this intention or ‘ehram’ and putting on the pilgrim garb
is symbolical of his renouncing the vanities of this world. Once a pilgrim is
in the state of ‘ehraam’ until he has completed his pilgrimage he must not wear
other clothes, nor anoint nor cut his hair, not clip his nails, nor use
perfume, nor hunt land animals, nor associate with his spouse sexually, nor do
any other prohibited and restricted acts during the state of ‘ehraam’.
These restrictions are only for those believers who have
made intention to perform the Hajj or Umrah pilgrimage and entered the ‘ehraam’,
and not for the believers at large who are not on pilgrimage.
There is absolutely no restriction on those believers who
are not on the pilgrimage to observe the limits of ‘ehram’; those who are not
on pilgrimage are free to cut their hair, or their nails, or apply perfume, or
associate sexually with their spouse, etc. anytime they wish to do so.
Your
Question: Also I want to know if we have regular questions to ask then how
should we approach you by posting the questions on this website or is there any
other way for regular queries??
Beloved Brother in Islam, you are welcome to ask as many
questions as you wish by posting the questions on the web-site. If Allah helps and allows us, we shall strive
to reply each and every one of your questions in light of the guidance of the
Quran and Sunnah as soon as we possibly can, Insha Allah.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source
of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan