What do u do wen u dont want to marry the person ur parents chose for u???
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what do u do wen u
dont want to marry the person
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Answer:
Marriage by Choice
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help
and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and
whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness
that there is no one (no idol, no person,
no grave, no prophet, no
imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone,
and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of
His Messengers.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.98 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A
virgin should not be married till she is asked for her consent; and the matron
should not be married till she is asked whether she agrees to marry or
not." It was asked, "O Allah's Messenger (saws)! How will she (the
virgin because of her shyness) express her consent?" He (saws) said,
"By keeping silent."
Beloved Sister, one of the absolutely obligatory
conditions of marriage in Islam is the consent of the woman, regardless of
whether she is a virgin or a matron (one who has been married before).
Thus, if for any reason, the believing woman does
not approve of a proposal or choice of her parents, she has a God-given right
to politely and humbly explain her refusal to her parents and guardians, and
the parents and guardians must respect and honor this right which The Lord
Creator has bestowed on the believing woman.
The believing woman who wishes to refuse a proposal
brought forth by her parents/guardians, must remain within the prescribed
boundaries of her Lord and be absolutely humble, polite, respectful, and
courteous to her parents/guardians in conveying her refusal. Under absolutely no circumstances should she
get abusive, disrespectful, offensive, impolite or ill-mannered towards her
parents in conveying her refusal; but instead try with absolute humility and
politeness to explain her refusal to them.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due
to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source
of Strength.
Your brother and well
wisher in Islam,
Burhan