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salam brother

i hve one question i want to ask u tht im in love with one guy his name is ALI he also loves me n he spoke to his parents abt u tht he wants to marry me n we r planning to marry after i complete my studies i wan to ask u tht is loving someone prohibited in islam n if yes so u tell me wat should i do plz help me i truely love him n he also

thankyou  

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Answer:

Love Permissible

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question-1: i wan to ask u tht is loving someone prohibited in islam

Dear and Beloved Sister, love-hate, like-dislike, joy-sorrow, smile-weep, etc. are natural emotions of mankind! What determines virtue and sin is what one says or does when one experiences these natural emotions!

To love someone is a natural emotion, and there is absolutely no sin if one loves another person; it is what one does after one has fallen in love with that person which would determine whether it would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah or a sin!

If one falls in love, and informs one’s guardians that they love so and so, and requests them to sanctify their love in the sacred bond of marriage so that they may love each other for the rest of their lives would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

But if one falls in love, and strives to meet the person in secret and in private, and in their love transgress the boundaries of Allah Subhanah before they are united in the sacred bond of marriage; then indeed it would constitute a huge sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

Your Question: wat should i do

Dear and beloved sister, if both of you truly love each other and wish to remain in the boundaries of your Lord Creator, then ask the brother to honor the ‘love between you and ask him to manifest his love by approaching your parents seeking your hand in marriage; or alternatively, you could inform your parents that you like this brother and implore them to sanctify your love and unite the two of you in the sacred bond of marriage. Such steps would be considered righteousness and close to piety in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

Under no circumstances should you allow your love for the brother to transgress the boundaries of your Lord Creator and Islam. Secret meetings, private talks, dating, or forming any relationship out of marriage with a non-mehram member of the opposite sex in the name of ‘love’ would be an open transgression of the boundaries of Allah Subhanah. The one and only way to honor the ‘love’ is to sanctify that love through the sacred institution of marriage.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5:

5 This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan