Disobedient to parents and still paradise
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Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:
hello,
the quran says there are 7 doors to heaven, 7 ways to get to heaven.
one of
them is through the obedience of parents.
if
someone does not get along with his/her parents, can he/she choose to go to
heaven through performing other deeds besides parents obedience.
Please
don`t send me verses or hadiths that highlight the importance of parents and
their obedience.
Just
tell me if one can get to heaven through a door other than thru parents`
obedience and if there are any verses or hadiths that back this statement.
Thanks for your help,
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Answer:
Disobedient to parents and still Paradise
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person,
no grave, no prophet, no
imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah
Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the
seal of His Messengers.
Your
Statement: the quran says there are 7 doors to heaven, 7 ways to get to heaven.
The Prophet (saws) said, "
The Glorious Quran is silent regarding the exact number of
gates to Paradise; but there are several authentic narrations of the Prophet
(saws) who mentioned that
Your
Statement: one of them is through the obedience of parents.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated
by Abud Darda
When a man came to him and said, "I have
a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he
had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the gates
of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it!"
Not only does the obedience of parents lead the believer
to a gate of Paradise, the Messenger of Allah (saws) mentioned that it leads to
one of the ‘Best’ gates of
Your
Statement: Please don`t send me verses or hadiths that highlight the importance
of parents and their obedience.
Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, there are just so many
commands in the Quran and the Sunnah regarding the due importance of the
obedience to parents in Islam; but since you have specifically instructed us
not to quote you any verses or hadiths regarding this subject, we will try to
obey your instructions.
Your
Question: Just tell me if one can get to heaven through a door other than thru
parents` obedience and if there are any verses or hadiths that back this
statement.
The Prophet (saws) was asked about the
‘Grave Sins’, and He (saws) replied, "They are:--
(1 ) To join others in worship with Allah,
(2) To be undutiful to one's parents,
(3) To kill a person (which Allah has
forbidden to kill)
(4) And to give a false witness."
Second only to the absolute gravest sin and abomination of
‘shirk’ (associating others with Allah Subhanah) in gravity of sins
in the Sight of Allah Subhanah is the disobedience to parents!
Even if one has been disobedient and undutiful to
one’s parents all their life, if they turn back to Allah in repentance
seeking His forgiveness, and amend their conduct with their parents….it
is expected that they will find their Lord Forgiving and Merciful.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good
people very much, who, if ever they
commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for
their shortcomings. For who but
Allah, can forgive sins? (And
Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with
forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they
will reside therein forever!
How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
But if after knowing the gravity of the sin, one knowingly
persists in being disobedient and undutiful to ones parents and death overtakes
him in that state, then his case and decision is with Allah Subhanah Alone.
A man said, "O Messenger of Allah (saws)
what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or
your relation with them will determine) your
The Prophet (saws) said, "An
undutiful son, a gambler, one who casts up what he has given, and one
who is addicted to wine will not enter
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "There
are three people to whom Allah has forbidden
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who
casts up the favours he has done, he who is disobedient to parents,
and he who is addicted to wine will not enter
Sahih Muslim Hadith 6189 Narrated by
Allah's Messenger (saws) said: ‘Let him
be humbled into dust! Let him be
humbled into dust!’ It was
said: ‘O Allah's Messenger (saws), who is he?” He (saws) said: ‘He who sees either
of his parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does
not enter
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and
He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in
Islam,
Burhan
Wister