Wisdom Behind Marriage Half of Deen" but still the question in my mind has not been answered that "What is the importance of marriage in Islam? & why is it necessary to get married in Islam?"
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Brother Burhan I am a 27 year old bachelor. I`ve read your topic on "Wisdom Behind Marriage Half of Deen" but still the question in my mind has not been answered that "What is the importance of marriage in Islam? & why is it necessary to get married in Islam?" & "What is the minimum requirenment a man should have to get married as per Islam?" & "What type of girl a person needs to get married as per Islam?"
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Concept of Marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your Question: What is the importance of marriage in Islam?
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rum verse 21:
And of Allah’s Sign is
that He has created for you wives from your own species, so that you may find peace with them, and (Allah has) created love and mercy
between you. Surely in this there are
many Signs for those who reflect.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34:
Men are the managers of the affairs of women because Allah has made the one superior to the other, and because men spend of their wealth on women. Virtuous women are , therefore, obedient (to their husbands); and they guard in his absence what Allah would have them guard (their honor, their property, etc.)
When one marries, one saves and
legalizes for himself in one of the most powerful natural desire and attraction
that Allah Subhanah has bestowed in the nature of man: one’s natural sexual
urge or desire. Besides, this sacred
bond of marriage puts in place a foundation for a society, whereby a family is
created and the means to uphold and continue the future of mankind is
Just as one has an inclination
to eat good-looking and tasty food; the real role and mission behind the
consumption of food is neither its looks, nor its taste, nor its smell, but its
real mission is to provide the fuel for ones physical health. Similarly, the All-Wise, All-Knowing Lord has
put this natural physical desire and attraction of sex in human beings to
fulfill the mission of pro-creation and continuity of mankind until a term
appointed by Him. Allah Subhanah has
declared the concept of marriage as the only gateway of legally fulfilling this
bestowed natural desire of sex in mankind, and as a test declared all the other
means of fulfilling this desire as illegal and forbidden. The sacred institution of marriage is the
tool upon which relations, their rights, duties, and responsibilities amongst
each other, and the foundation of a righteous society are built.
If the society chooses not to
marry and establish a family, as is happening in the many so-called
modern-educated but ignorant and ungodly world today, the nucleus of the foundation
of forming a righteous society is shaken from its very core! Neither the men nor the women choose to marry
and establish a family, for the Shaytaan has made it fair-seeming for them to
fulfill their natural sexual desires out of marriage. The chaos and trial this
creates in society is laid bare to be witnessed by all mankind. Not only does it effect the man and the woman
alone, but the effect it has on future generations is absolutely detrimental to
The Messenger of Allah (saws) so
recognized and gave so much importance to this Sunnah of being united in the
sacred bond of marriage, that he (saws) termed it half the deen!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3096 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said,
"When a man marries he has fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear
Allah regarding the remaining half."
Your Question: why is it necessary to get married in Islam?
Beloved Brother, marriage is not an obligatory command of
Islam; but rather it is a preferred, approved, and an extremely encouraged
Sunnah of the Prophet (saws). If one
chooses not to marry for any valid reason, and is still able to preserve his
modesty and chastity, there would be no sin upon him.
But if one is able to marry and chooses not to marry for
no valid reason, or one believes or thinks that not marrying is a bigger virtue
than marrying, he will be guilty of the sin of intentionally going against the
Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws).
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.1 Narrated by Anas bin Malik
A group of three men came to the houses of
the wives of the Prophet (saws) asking how the Prophet worshipped (Allah), and
when they were informed about that, they considered their worship insufficient
and said, "Where are we from the Prophet (saws) as his past and future
sins have been forgiven." Then one
of them said, "I will offer the prayer throughout the night forever."
The other said, "I will fast
throughout the year and will not break my fast." The third said, "I
will keep away from the women and will not marry forever." Allah's Messenger (saws) came to them and
said, "Are you the same people who said so-and-so? By Allah, I am more submissive to Allah and
more afraid of Him than you; yet I fast and break my fast, I do sleep, and I
also marry women. So he who does not follow my Sunnah in religion, is not from me (not
one of my followers!)."
Your Question: What is the minimum requirenment a man should
have to get married as per Islam?"
The absolute minimum requirement for marriage in light of
the guidance of the Quran and the Sunnah is first and foremost, one has a
natural desire to marry, and secondly one is capable to take responsibility
(financial and other) of raising a family.
Your Question: What type of girl a person needs to get
married as per Islam?"
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated
by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is
married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and
her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Beauty, wealth, and family status may diminish with the
vicissitude of time, but faith and belief in the religion of Truth of one will
stand in good stead benefiting the person not only in the life of this world,
but also in the eternal and everlasting life in the Hereafter.
Beloved Brother, the above guidance of the superiority of
the option of religion between the four available options when choosing a girl
in marriage is not a command of the Messenger of Allah (saws), but only his
guidance and best advice for those who choose to marry. In light of the clear guidance of the Quran
and Sunnah, it is evidently clear that if one disobeys a clear command of Allah
and His Messenger (saws) he will bring nothing but ruin upon himself; but in
our humble opinion and experience, if one disobeys even an advice or
recommendation of Allah and His Messenger (saws), Allah is our witness, the
person would bring nothing but misery upon himself!
Thus if one who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last
Day wishes to have a successful marriage, he should take the counsel of the one
who gave nothing but the best of counsels, and choose to marry a religious
girl; for otherwise, Allah is our witness, he would be amongst the losers!
Sahih Muslim Hadith 3465 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As
Allah's Messenger (saws) said: ‘The whole
world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious (religious)
If one trusts,
obeys, and follows the guidance
and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being
misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger
(saws), one can be assured of being led
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your Brother and
sincere well wisher in Islam,