A husband gave his wife full consent to sleep with another man how is this viewed in Islam
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My question is: If a husband gave his wife full consent to sleep with another
man how is this viewed in Islam. And the same with a wife giving consent to her
husband to sleep with another woman. Therefore approval is authorised by the
partner, where is the problem?.
Please dont think this is ridiculous because i`ve known this to happen.
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Husband wife permission zina
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Your Statement: Please dont think this is ridiculous
because i`ve known this to happen.
Unfortunately in these ‘free’-modern-educated-ignorant but
un-Godly times we live in today, where men and women live together without
marrying is tolerable, where pre-marital sex is considered acceptable, where
being an unwed mother is considered fashionable, where daughters and sisters
are not safe from their own fathers and brothers, where abortion and the murder
of sacred life is rampant, where the shedding of clothes and the display of flesh
is promoted as ‘fashion’, where the righteous wearing of the ‘hijaab’ is considered
backward, subjugation of women, and declared illegal, where all that is
required for one to have sex is ‘consent’, where men and women come to
television ‘talk-shows’ to announce their infidelity, where men have been known
to have had sex with their animals, where a man can legally marry another man,
where a woman can legally marry another woman, ….. Allah is our witness, the
term ‘ridiculous’ is just too shallow and too insignificant to describe the
state of depravity, decadence, and degenerance humanity and morality finds
itself in today!
Thus my beloved sister, we assure you that we do not think
that the question you have asked is ‘ridiculous’ at all; but an important one the
consequence of which needs to be understood and addressed in light of the guidance
of the Quran and the Sunnah.
Your Question: If a husband gave his wife full consent to
sleep with another man how is this viewed in Islam. And the same with a wife
giving consent to her husband to sleep with another woman.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3655 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "There
are three people to whom Allah has forbidden
Your Statement: Therefore approval is authorised by the
partner, where is the problem?.
Allah
says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32: Do not even go
near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing
and a very evil way!
The ‘problem’ is that Allah Subhanah, the Majestic and
Supreme Lord of the Worlds has forbidden the evil act and the abomination of
‘zina’ for His believing slaves!
The ‘problem’ lies in the fact that this sin of ‘zina’ is
so heinous and so grave in the sight of the All-Mighty Lord, that He has
prescribed the ultimate punishment of stoning to death those guilty of this
abomination! Bear in mind that this is
only the fitting and just punishment Allah has commanded the righteous society
to extract from those guilty of adultery in the life of this transitory and
short world; for those who do not repent, one can only imagine the Wrath, Anger
and the Punishment of the All-Mighty Lord in the eternal and everlasting life
of the Hereafter!
The ‘problem’ lies in the fact that those who commit or
consent to such evil deeds ridicule and in effect abuse the union which the
righteous amongst society uphold as the sacred institution of marriage!
The ‘problem’ lies in the absolute and inevitable fact
that One Inevitable and Tumultuous Day every person will be gathered and brought
forth in the Presence of the Majestic and Supreme Lord and Judge to give a full
accounting of his deeds!
The ‘problem’ lies in the fact that man is not the
inherent owner of his own ‘will’ or consent; but rather it is a trust which
their Lord Creator has bestowed upon them to see what does this supreme
creation of the Lord do when entrusted with a limited ‘free’ will for a period
of time as a test. Then to His Majestic
Presence all will be gathered on One Tumultuous and Overwhelming Day to give a
full accounting of what man did with this bestowed trust!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verses 63-71: The (true) servants of the Merciful are those who walk
humbly on the earth. When the ignorant
people behave insolently towards them,
they say, “Peace to you”; (And they
are those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before
their Lord and pray, “O our Lord, save
us from the torment of Hell, for its
torment is killing! It is an evil
abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly,
but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but
Allah Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly which
Allah has forbidden, nor commit
adultery… He who does this shall be punished for his sin, and his torment shall be doubled on the Day
of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a
state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE
ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS),
AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then,
Allah will change his evil deeds into good deeds, and He is very Forgiving and Merciful. In fact,
one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!
Man might get away with abusing the ‘trust’ that the Lord
Creator has bestowed upon him in the life of this short and transient world;
but Allah is our witness, no doer of evil who does not repent will get away
with his evil on that Day of Justice and Resurrection!
My dear and beloved sister in Islam, for those who
sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day, ‘consent’ to do or abstain from
something is when their Lord Creator gives them His Consent! Just because two adults simply ‘consent’ to
have sex amongst themselves does not make this act legal or acceptable in the
sight of Allah, for He has provided mankind with a set of rules and
pre-conditions which when followed would make this act of sex between a legally
married husband and wife an acceptable and rewardable deed in the sight of the
Majestic Lord.
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: ‘The
Sadaqah from you is prescribed for you, and there is a reward for you [even] in
sex with your wife!' The companions
asked "O Messenger of Allah (saws) is there a reward if one satisfies his
passion?" He (saws) said: "Do you know that if he satisfies it
unlawfully he has taken a sin upon himself? Likewise, if he satisfies it
lawfully, he is rewarded."
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Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan
Wister