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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

I almost read u r Q/A and i am fully satisfied with Ur answers, thanks to all of Ur unit .I have a question about the "valima".on the first day of marriage after nikha ,newly married couple they come back to the bed room.they booth are new to each other ,they don`t know each other.how it is possible to do sex directly,and they will do why ? they relation start with "bed rest"

(sex) ???? why they don`t do after they know each other very well.I KNOW THAT IS SUNNATH BUT I WANT THE KNOW WHY ????????

Please reply me ,i am waiting for Ur replay.

ALLAH HAFIZ.

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Answer:

Sex on marriage night

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Dear and Beloved Brother, contrary to popular belief, there is neither an obligation nor a restriction in Islam, nor is it considered an act of Sunnah for the married couple to conjugate on their wedding night or before their ‘walima’! This decision of when to start and enjoy their conjugal relations with each other is left at the discretion and comfort of the married couple. If they wish to conjugate on their wedding night, there is no harm; and if they wish to delay their conjugation for a period of time when they are comfortable with each other, it is upto them.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan