Can wife take husbands money?
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's
Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Dear brother Burhan, As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa
Barakatuh.
Is it permissible for the wife to take her husbands money without his knowing
sometimes, not always. Keeping in mind that the husband is a caring person and
provides her with all initials plus easygoing life requirements. But he does not give her cash or pocket money
as you can say. He does not like the idea of giving her the money although he
can give her. Sometimes
she badly needs the money to speak to her parents who live in another country.
She is not a spendthrift and does not spend on herself or her parents or her
relatives. She needs the money to pay her fees plus her child's fees as she is
attending an Islamic school. He says it is an Islamic school they teach you
free of charge which should not be the attitude towards gaining Islamic
knowledge. My child and I myself use the school transportation also, I
need to pay the driver's fees also. He is already to feed and clothe her but
draws back when it comes to feed and beautify her soul. Please advice.
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Answer:
Can
wife take husband’s money?
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for
His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He
allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there
is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your
Question: Is it permissible for the wife to take her husbands money without his
knowing sometimes, not always.
Allah
Subhanah has put the complete and absolute financial responsibility of running
a household on the shoulders of the men in Islam. Thus it is the responsibility and duty of the husband to provide
for his wife and his family to the best of his ability.
If the
husband has given his wife permission that she may take his money anytime she
likes, there is absolutely no harm in taking from his money without his
knowledge. But if the wife takes the
money without informing him or without his knowledge whatsoever, it would be
akin to stealing in a way, and would also give rise to a lot of complications
in the house.
The best
and most righteous way is to inform him, and then take his money; or
alternatively get a fixed weekly or monthly income from him to run the expenses
of the household at your discretion. In
our humble opinion, that would be the most righteous way.
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me. Allah
Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan