Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

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CAN A BOY AND GIRL MEET UP BEFORE MARRIGE?

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Answer:

Meet up before Marriage

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His  forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

It is preferred and an advice from the Messenger of Allah (saws) to the believers that the couple who are thinking of getting married, should meet up and see, talk and try to know each other. Thus, there is absolutely no harm, if a boy and a girl meet up before marriage; provided that one condition of this meeting is met: that the girl should always be with a mehram (father, brother, uncle, etc) while meeting the boy.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3118 Narrated by Umar ibn al-Khattab

The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman, the Devil makes a third."

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan