Marriage without parents consent.
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What
does Quran say about, if a young muslim boy and young muslim girl ( both are
adults) gets marired, without parents acceptens?
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Answer:
Marriage without
parents consent
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Ref: Parents
consent for the bride to marry
There are four absolutely obligatory conditions for a
marriage or ‘nikaah’ to be deemed lawful in the Sight of Shariah and of Allah
Subhanah:
- Proposal
by one party and acceptance by the other.
- The
determination of ‘mehr’ for the bride.
- The
availability of at least two witnesses to the marriage contract.
- The
consent of the parents/guardians (wali) of the bride.
If even one of the above four obligatory conditions of a
‘nikaah’ are not honored, the marriage will not be deemed lawful, null and void
in the Sight of Shariah Law and of Allah Subhanah.
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2078 Narrated by
Aisha, Ummul Mu`minin
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: 'The
marriage of a woman who marries without the consent of her guardians (wali) is
void.' (He (saws) said these words three times.)
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3137 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A woman
may not give a woman in marriage, nor may she give herself in marriage, for the
immoral woman is the one who gives herself in marriage."
It is unlawful in Shariah Law for a woman to give herself
in marriage, or to marry someone without the prior consent of her ‘wali’
(parents, guardians, etc.).
If the parents/wali/guardians of the bride are believers,
and if a woman marries someone without the prior consent of her ‘wali’, or if
any of the above listed four absolutely obligatory conditions on a ‘nikaah’ are
violated….that marriage contract will be deemed null and void in the Sight of
Allah Subhanah and in the Sight of Shariah Law.
Ref: Parents
consent for the groom to marry:
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verse 54:
54 It is He Who has created man from water: then has He
established relationships through blood and (through) marriage: for thy
Lord has Power (over all things).
Islam guides that a marriage is not merely a union of two
people who love each other, but rather a sacred union that unites two whole
families….thus if one is faced with a situation whereby their son is so in
‘love’ with an eligible girl (believer, chaste, etc.) and the parents of the
boy are satisfied with the character and the practice of religion of the
girl…..they should accede with the choice and request of their son.
Although the consent of the boy’s parents is not an
obligatory condition of a marriage in Islam, it would only be piety and righteousness
on the part of the son to make sure that he has the approval and consent of his
parents before he marries the girl. If
for any reason one finds that their parents are just not willing to consent to
their choice, it would be better to marry another girl whom the boy and the
parents both approve of….for marriage in Islam is but a ‘Sunnah’ (voluntary),
but to obey and be dutiful to the lawful commands of one’s parents is
‘Fard-ayn’ or absolutely obligatory upon every believer who sincerely believes
in Allah and the Last Day.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941 Narrated byAbu Umamah
A man said, "O Messenger of Allah (saws)
what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or
your relation with them will determine) your
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.821 Narrated by Anas
The Prophet (saws) was asked about the ‘Grave
Sins’, and He (saws) replied, "They are:--
(1 ) To join others in worship with Allah,
(2) To be undutiful to one's parents,
(3) To kill a person (which Allah has
forbidden to kill)
(4) And to give a false witness."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated by Abud Darda
When a man came to him and said, "I have
a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he
had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the
gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verse 216:
216 ……But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you
and that ye love a thing which is bad for you.
But Allah Knows and ye know not.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister