Revert and stay secret muslim
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As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
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ASALAMU ALLIKKUM ,
I am a converted muslim grill, an i dint inform my parents about that. so now i need to go home to see my parents. But at home i must need to go to church an all kind of chistain prayer. if i inform them they might be kill me. or..so what should i do. just to follow them for a month. is it a sin for me.
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Revert and stay secret muslim
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
May the Lord Most Merciful bless your reversion to the Truth, and grant you the wisdom and the courage to remain steadfast on this path of Truth that leads to His Mercy and His Forgiveness. Ameen.
Beloved Sister in Islam, please accept our congratulations in having the courage to listen to good caution and accept Allah swt as your Lord and Cherisher. InshaAllah He will make your trials easy.
Acceptance to the faith of Islam is the condition of ones heart, and a matter strictly between an individual and their Lord Creator; and there is absolutely no obligation or requirement for one who wishes to revert to Islam to publicly announce their reversion, or even announce it to their family, etc..if one fears harm or does not wish to do so.
Respected sister, if you fear that your parents will neither understand nor accept your reversion to the Truth of Islam, and you fear that they might get angry and strive to convince you to leave the fold of Islam..you would be well within the Boundaries of your Lord to leave your acceptance of Islam hidden from them.
Furthermore sister, even if you live in a town completely isolated from a believing community or a Masjid, it would only be prudent that you keep in touch with the nearest Islamic Centre or Masjid or some pious believers, even if only through the internet or telephone..doing so would be a useful resource for you in case your secret is somehow exposed unto your parents and they put you in a severe trial because of your faith.
If you fear for your life from your parents if they find out about your reversion then there is no sin if you go to church for a few weeks. But being a Muslim is a great occasion and our sincere advise is that you should reveal this to your parents with wisdom and in the appropriate time. You cannot hide this phenomena forever. If you pray to Allah swt for guidance, we are sure He will show you the path to success.
Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, never never ever lose hope or despair of the Mercy of your Lord Most Merciful. Even if your parents never accept your reversion, it is your duty as a believer to strive to the best of your ability to serve them selflessly for the rest of your (or their) life! As impossible as it may seem to you now, it may be that your Lord has Mercy on them, and through your sincere efforts softens their hearts to not only accept your decision, but perhaps even guide them towards the Truth of Al-Islam
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 186:
And if My servants ask you, O Prophet, concerning Me, tell them that I am quite near to them. I hear and answer the prayer of the suppliant, when he calls on Me. So let them respond to My call and believe in Me. (Convey this to them), perhaps they may be guided aright!
Our sincere advise to you is to first learn the Quran comprehensively and also study the a'Hadiths and InshaAllah you will receive the strength and knowledge to face all situations bravely with courage and dignity. Our prayers are always with you and if there is any assistance you require please do not hesitate to email on this site.
May your Lord Most Gracious give you the patience, the wisdom, and the steadfastness to stay firm on faith; and may your Lord Most Merciful make your trial easy for you. Ameen.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is only ones. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,
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