I am in love with a boy , hes also interested in me and we r getting engaged very soon.
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respectable brother, i am in love with a boy , hes also interested in me and we r getting engaged very soon. we use to talk on phone and chat on net.he always likes to see me on the web cam but one day he asked me to show up nude.
Firstly i was reluctant but as he was angry i agree and i did show myself nude to him on the cam for 10 min.....since i have performed this stupid action i feel guilty but my fiance convinces me saying that there is no harm in showing to one u are marrying....and he demands it again.please help me and tell me what does islam say abt it.
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Question: please help me and tell me what does islam say abt it.
Beloved Sister in Islam, Allah Subhanah, the Creator and Sustainer of the heavens and the earth, has clearly described zina as absolutely haraam and forbidden for the believers.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:
Do not even go near zina (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 2:
The woman and the man guilty of zina (fornication), flog each one of them with a hundred stripes, and let not pity for them restrain you in regard to a matter prescribed by Allah; if indeed you believe in Allah and the Last Day! And let a section of the believers witness the punishment inflicted on them.
Zina (fornication and adultery) are considered amongst the gravest sins in Islam. One can imagine the severity of the sin, by the punishment Allah and His Messenger (saws) have decreed for the sin. And if the person dies without making Taubah or asking repentance from Allah Subhanah in the life of this world, the punishment of the Hereafter in the Just Court of Allah Subhanah is even more severe than the punishment of the world!!
As is the principle in Islam, any act which has been declared as haraam or absolutely forbidden, all the roads or paths or processes that lead to the haraam will also be considered forbidden.
Zina is considered such an evil and such a grave sin that Allah has advised the believers in the Holy Quran 17:32 .. Do not even go near zina.. We are commanded by Allah not to even go near zina, if indeed we fear Allah and the Last Day!!!
For a believing man or woman to talk vain talk with a non-mehram member of the opposite sex is an act which leads to the path of zina, and thus forbidden in Islam!
For a believing man or woman to form an illicit relationship with a non-mehram member of the opposite sex is an act which leads to the path of zina, and thus forbidden in Islam!
For a believing man or woman who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day to expose ones full satr to anyone other than their legally wedded spouse is an act which leads to the evil and heinous path of zina, and thus absolutely forbidden in Islam!
Not only is zina declared haraam by Allah and His Messenger (saws), but every act which leads one to the evil path of zina is also considered absolutely forbidden in Islam!
Your Statement: since i have performed this stupid action i feel guilty
Your this guilt is evidence that you are one who fears The Inevitable Tribunal of your Lord Most Majestic; for every single human being will be gathered and brought forth in the Presence of their Majestic Lord to give a full accounting of his/her deeds.
All Praise is due to Allah Subhanah Alone Who has guided you to fear him. Beloved Sister in Islam, with immediate effect, in all fear, and humility, and hope, beseech and implore your Lord Most Merciful to forgive you your act you did in ignorance, and make a solemn covenant with your Lord that you will never ever go even close towards the things which transgress His Boundaries. Allah is our witness, if you are sincere in seeking repentance from your Lord, it is expected that you will find Him Forgiving and Merciful.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: O My servants who have wronged their own souls.Do not despair of Allahs Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
Your Statement: my fiance convinces me saying that there is no harm in showing to one u are marrying....and he demands it again.
Beloved Sister, as slave-servants of Allah Subhanah, the believers have chosen to be bound by His Declared Boundaires; and it is the right of Allah and His Messenger (saws) alone to declare and inform us which things will bring harm to one in this world and the Hereafter, and which things are safe from harm!
Engagement and fiance have absolutely no legal basis or standing in Shariah or in the Sight of Allah Subhanah. Unless and until a couple have actually united themselves in the sacred institution of nikaah (marriage), it is absolutely impermissible and forbidden for them to enjoy their relationship!
If the boy sincerely loves you, he will understand and appreciate the Truth when you tell him in absolutely plain and clear terms to fear Allah, and dishonor you not in demanding things which have been clearly declared as forbidden by Allah and His Messenger (saws); and ask him to prove his love by doing the righteous thing and honor you by approaching your parents and seeking your hand in marriage.
As your brothers and sincere well-wishers in faith, we implore you not to give in to the absolutely illegal, immoral, and indecent demands of the person, but rather fear Allah and dishonor not the honor Your Lord Most Gracious has bestowed upon you as a believing woman.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,