Recently I have experienced an increased liking for a girl in my university. As I am studying in an environment where practicing Islam isnt that easy but this girl wears full Hijab
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Recently I have experienced an increased liking for a girl in my university. As I am studying in an environment where practicing Islam isnt that easy but this girl wears full Hijab and is a good muslimah, and I guess my liking for her is because of her piousness. I have thought of talking to her but as I am a non-mehram I cannot but I would really like to convey her a message and explain my feelings for her. Will it be appropriate if I emailed her my message or is there any other way which is acceptable in Islam?
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Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5:
5 ..(Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).
Your Question: I have thought of talking to her but
as I am a non-mehram I cannot but I would really like to convey her a message
and explain my feelings for her. Will it be appropriate if I emailed her my
message or is there any other way which is acceptable in Islam?
Dear and Beloved Brother in Islam, it all depends on your intention why you want to convey a message with the sister.
If your intention is simply to befriend her or get to know her or get close to her for any other reason other than marriage, then such a relationship between a non-mehram boy and girl is absolutely prohibited in Islam.
But if your likeness for the sister is such that you intend to honor and marry her, and thus wish to find out her response to your proposal, you could do one of following two honorable things:
- Tell your parents or guardians about the sister and implore then to approach the guardians or parents of the sister with the proposal.
- Or alternatively, you could visit the sisters parents and guardians and tell them about your feelings for the sister yourself.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,