I`m a non married lady of age 20. there was a person of age 25. who said he will marry me and our family meet and after there talks some problem happen and relation drop now we can`t marry
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I`m a non married lady of age 20. there was a person of age 25. who said he will marry me and our family meet and after there talks some problem happen and relation drop now we can`t marry. but in this time phrase i did sex with him. now we both want to Tooba (Mafi) what we have done, how can we do that ?.
what we both should do and secondly will it come under rape but we both had our wishes.?
he is going to marry another lady next year. will it affect his life?
or will it affect my life?
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Your Question: now we both want to Tooba (Mafi) what we have done, how can we do that?.
Whatever deeds one might have done, if one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran that He will forgive all the sins of such a believer, even if one has committed the gravest sin of all: Shirk! Not only that, our Lord is so Merciful and Generous, that He not only will forgive the sins of the believer, He will change his evil deeds done into good deeds!
The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:
- One is aware that he has sinned, and feels sorry and ashamed at his sin.
- Makes a solemn covenant and promise with Allah that he will not repeat his sin again.
- Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before he has met with his appointment of death.
- Is a believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: O My servants who have wronged their own souls.Do not despair of Allahs Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave insolently towards them, they say, Peace to you; (And those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, O our Lord, save us from the torment of Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly, but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but Allah Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery He who does this shall be punished for his sin, and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good deeds, and He is very Forgiving and Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:
When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Your Question: will it come under rape but we both had our wishes.?
The heinous crime of rape would occur when a man forces the woman to have sexual intercourse with him against her will; but if both the man and the woman indulge in consensual illegal sexual intercourse it would be classified as zina or fornication, which is also a grave sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Your Question: he is going to marry another lady next year. will it affect his life?
or will it affect my life?
When one commits any deed, that deed itself may naturally lead to certain consequences which must be borne by those who commit the deed.
If it be the Will of Allah, He may Will to expose the evil of the zina committed, and the woman may become pregnant as a resultwhich in turn would effect their life. Or if it be His Will, the couple who tried to commit the heinous sin of zina in secret are caught red-handed while in the act, which may effect their reputation and honor in front of their loved ones and the society they live in for the rest of their lives. Or it may be that Allah Subhanah covers their sin from the rest of mankind and gives them the opportunity to seek sincere repentance from their Lord Most Merciful for their transgression.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,