How to make enemies friends?
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Please suggest me some DUA to win-over enemies and to make them friends and for the well-being of the family.
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How to make enemies friends?
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Beloved Sister in Islam, the principle in Islam when one wishes for something is to first study the conditions and do the best thing that is available and appropriate to its full potential, and then put ones full trust in Allah Subhanah concerning the results of the effort. The dua or supplication by itself will not bring the desired outcome, although its performance is extremely and vitally important because it signifies ones complete and utter helplessness in bringing about the desired results which are in the Power and Domain of Allah Subhanah Alone.
Thus if one wishes to pass a school exam, or get a job, or get married, or become a better muslim, or even to attain the ultimate reward of Paradise, etc.; one must admit his utter and complete helplessness in the Presence of the All-Mighty Lord through ones supplication, but what is extremely important is that one sincerely strives to work using the available asbaabs or conditions towards the desired results. Dua or supplication is no more than admitting ones weakness and helplessness in bringing about the desired results, and seeking the help of Allah Subhanah to make the results of our efforts successful. Thus dua alone will not help if one is not willing to sincerely strive and work towards ones desired goal.
Your Question: Please suggest me some DUA to win-over enemies and to make them friends and for the well-being of the family.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 41 Surah Haa Meem verses 34-36:
34 Nor can Goodness and Evil be equal. Repel (evil) with what is better: then will he between whom and thee was hatred become as it were thy friend and intimate!
35 And no one will be granted such goodness except those who exercise patience and self-restraint; none but persons of the greatest good fortune.
36 And if (at any time) an incitement to discord is made to thee by the Shaytaan, seek refuge in Allah. He is the One Who hears and knows all things.
The answer to your question on how to convert sworn enemies into sincere and intimate friends has been answered in the Glorious Quran by none other than the Lord All-Mighty Himself! The course of action recommended by the All-Wise Lord if one sincerely wishes to convert ones enemies to ones intimate friends is to repel their evil with that which is good, and the One Who Created our nature also guides that none will be able to do this great deed except those fortunate ones who exercise patience and practice self-restraint.
Thus if you sincerely wish to convert your enemies into genuine friends and well-wishers, no matter whatever evil they may plan or do against you, you must genuinely do good towards them. If they curse and abuse you, you pray for them; if they revile and rebuke you, you be kind and generous with them; if they wish to take away something from you, you go ahead and present the thing to them; and if they refuse to give you your right, you make sure you give them all their due rights in full!!!
Indeed, this course of action recommended by the All-Wise Lord demands great sacrifice, immense patience, enormous self-restraint, and above all genuine good will towards ones sworn enemies; but if one sincerely wishes to convert ones enemies to ones friends and well-wishers, there is no other way. Time and again the Shaytaan will inspire and instigate the person to seek revenge for the evil the enemies plan or do against you; but those who sincerely believe and trust the wisdom of Allah Subhanah strive to seek refuge from the evil inspirations of the Shaytaan, and stay steadfast on the path and guidance of their Lord Most Wise.
Thus, my beloved sister in Islam, regardless of how much evil your enemies plan or do against you, if you genuinely wish to convert them into your friends and well-wishers, you must do nothing but good towards them! At length, if Allah Subhanah Wills and Pleases, there will come a day when your enemies will become your intimate best friends and well-wishers.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,