Tell spouse about Zina
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Aslam 'o'Alaikum brother Burhan,
I have a question for which has confused me.
If a man commits zina and regrets this and does 'taubah' for forgiveness from almighty Allah Subhanah.
Then in the future when he is going to marry a muslim woman who is pure, is he required under islam and by the order of Allah Subhanah to tell this woman of his past sins and of this zina.
What should one do in this situation? I look forward to your reply inshAllah.
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Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54: (O Prophet) say: O My servants who have wronged their own souls.Do not despair of Allahs Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136: Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
statement:If a man commits zina and regrets this and does 'taubah' for
forgiveness from almighty Allah Subhanah. Then in the future when he is going
to marry a muslim woman who is pure, is he required under islam and by the
order of Allah Subhanah to tell this woman of his past sins and of this zina.
If one who has committed any grave sin, and subsequently sought sincere Taubah and amended his conduct, it is expected that the Merciful Lord would have mercy upon him and forgive him his sin.
When Allah Subhanah has covered and veiled his sin from becoming public knowledge, it does not behove a believer to uncover his sins in public. There is nothing in Shariah that states that a person must confess his sin to another human being, after he has made his confession and repentance to Allah Subhanah.
The person who has committed sins in ignorance, be it a man or a woman, must not unveil his sins after Allah Subhanah has veiled them from the world. When one has sincerely repented, and subsequently amended his/her conduct; then one should hope for Allahs Mercy and Forgiveness. Thus, when Allah Subhanah has covered the sins and faults of his believing slaves, we too should not put ourselves in a trial by exposing ourselves unnecessarily. There is absolutely no need to mention ones past evil deeds to the spouse and destroy or sow seeds of mistrust in the sacred bond of marriage. If one has done an evil in ignorance in the past, and has subsequently sincerely repented for his/her deeds, and amended their conduct; then it would be best to leave the past in the past and concentrate on doing righteous good deeds in the future.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,