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Is it okay to read adult jokes? What about sharing these kinds of jokes with your spouse- is that fine?
Is sex talk okay as long as it is with your spouse?
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Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 28:
28 When they do aught that is shameful they say: "We found our fathers doing so"; and "Allah commanded us thus": say: "Nay Allah never commands what is shameful: do ye say of Allah what ye know not?"
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 28 Surah Qasas verse 55:
55 And when they hear vain talk they turn away therefrom and say: "To us our deeds and to you yours; peace be to you: we seek not the ignorant."
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 23 Surah Miminoon verses 1-3:
1 The Believers must (eventually) win through
2 Those who humble themselves in their prayers;
3 Who avoid vain talk;
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 1741 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
The Prophet (saws) said: Indecency disfigures everything, and modesty (Haya') enhances the charm of everything.
Q-1: Is it okay to read adult jokes? What about sharing these kinds of jokes with your spouse- is that fine?
Adult jokes or talking openly about shameful things would be included in fahesha (indecency), and lagwaw (vain talk); things absolutely hated by Allah Subhanah. It would be best for a believer who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day to abstain from such evil conversations and talks, even in jest! That would be considered righteousness in the sight of Allah Subhanah.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.158 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should not hurt his neighbor; and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should serve his guests generously; and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should talk what is good or keep quiet."
Q-2: Is sex talk okay as long as it is with your spouse?
There is absolutely no veil or hijaab between a husband and wife in Islam! They may talk whatever they wish, in person, or in letters, or on the phone, or on the internet, or wherever else they feel comfortable. It is absolutely permissible to enjoy each others company, whether they are near or far. There is absolutely no restriction if they exchange as many sexual words and feelings between each other over any medium of communication they wish to do so!
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