Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
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Assalam alaikum warahmatullahi wa baraka tuhu.
jazaka ALLAH khairan. for the mails you sent to me. i really appreciate them.. i still need detailed information as to the most important things to be done if you intend to do the Aqdu nikkah. also, the reason my parents are giving for not allowing me to get married now is because i am still in school. i have about three years to go and i fear that i might not be able to keep chaste till then.i am a very weak person and i don't know how else to convince them. i have done so many things in my past that they aren't aware about and i don't want to bring those things up to prove to them that i can't promise my chastity at the end of those years.. please i don't mind if you can help me by suggesting what i should do in my case.I AM A FEMALE. i already have someone that has sent my imam in school to propose to me and all we want to do for now is the aqdu nikkah..i haven't accepted the proposal yet because it has to be when my parents agree to it but we are planning like i have. it is as bad as ,i can't gua
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In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
If you sincerely believe that by not marrying immediately you will put yourself in a trial and will not be able to honor your chastity; then the best and purest option for you is to indeed seek marriage and stay within the boundaries of Allah Subhanah.
You must strive to explain your situation to your parents in the most polite manner; or if you are unable to talk to them because of your awe of them, there is no harm in talking to someone who you believe and trust will understand your situation and explain it in the best manner to your parents.
Marriage is not just a temporary contract, but a permanent bond which demands commitment for life. There are no better well-wishers for your future in the whole wide world than your parents, and it would only be best and appropriate if you could take them in your confidence and get them to approve your choice in marriage.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,