Does he really want to marry me? Please help me!!
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Im 19 i was born muslim and i have lived on my own since i was 16 i have been through alot in the past and i find it hard to trust people. I never used to be religious at all. I recently met a muslim and he is currently studying in my city and is in his final year. we have been speaking for a month and he has brought Iman into my life i have started to pray namaz everyday and i know even wear hijab. He has taught me alot and always answers any questions i have. On the second ocassion we met he told me his intention was marriage, he wants me to move to his city which is 3 hours away from my city but i have a contarct on my flat for another 6months. Also i would have to find a job first in his city and accomodation. He hasn't told his parents or anyone about me, however he told me that he will never leave me and he loves me, he tells me his parents would love me and we talk about how many kids we would have and what we would name them.My concern is when ever i text him he takes over 5 hours to reply and i can see he has read my message and is using his phone because whatsapp lets you see when the person last looked at there phone and i see he is contstantly on his phone. when i confront him he says he is busy with uni work but it is like this everyday and when we are together if he gets a message he replies straight away infront of me.I have no elder to turn to or to ask for advice and i have prayed to Allah to guide me in this matter but i would like someones opinion on the matter if i am right to be worried or am i just being parranoid and letting my trust issuies get to me?
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