Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Asalamalikum ww, what should a girl do,if she got engaged with a boy whom her parents chose and wasn't given enough time to consider and after engagement without nikaah,the boy turns up with different aspect of life an d nature and shift the place of work wherein after marriage the boy and girl has to live separately for two to three years which wasn't told before to girl or her family and it is not easy for girl to live at other place after marriage which is unislamic also.The girl tried to talk and convey through several means to boy and the girls family also but all in vain and due to social factor and society fear which is also unislamic the girls family do not want to break the engagement or commitment.in this scase if thefirl si finding boy and hisfamily not true ,should she proceed,or what shall she do and what she shoudl tell the parents and she is not able to talk to the boy much as the difffrences have come up in that case how ill she proceed if within herat sh ehas developed the feeling of chetaness and fera forfuturelife.wasalam. The question should be anwwred by experets an dkept confident an d shouldnt be circulated toa nyone else.
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Sister you are within your rights to demand your preference of living in a particular town or reside together or separately according to your wish. If the boy or his family does not accept then you can call off the nikah. The engagement ceremony in Islam has no relevance as it is an alien practice.
Your consent at the time of nikah is a must and you have been granted the right to demand whatever you wish. Your parents should not force you to comply on anything you do not wish.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
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